Papaya,
I'm sorry you having a difficult time.

Maybe you don't need to do the OCM everyday. Maybe a couple of times a week is all that's needed.
You could try to stop it altogether for awhile and use water only until it subsides. I say water only, because if you use a cleanser, the cleanser might strip your natural oils, and then your skin would overscompensate with oil production. Definitely NOT what you need right now.
You might try a different combo of oils. Like Rebecca suggested, grapeseed oil is a bit more astringent.
I use grapeseed oil with a drop or two of jojoba oil. The grapeseed oil for the astringent quality, the jojoba for the soothing since it mimics the skin's natural sebum. Jojoba oil is more a wax than a true oil.
Maybe the OCM is working and the flare-ups are a sort of skin detox?
I say this because I remember I went through something similar when I was using alpha hydroxy acids some years back. I was warned that when I first started using AHA's that I might get breakouts before it got better because the dead skin cells were shedding faster and all the impurities were coming to the surface. Sure enough, I did get worse breakouts for about 2 weeks then they began to subside.
And finally, if you decide it's definitely not working for you, please don't feel badly about it! We are all individuals and the same routine does not work for everyone. (Look at the varying differences in the no-poo routines, for example.)
These are all just some thoughts I had. If you go to the link on the first page to the board that had the original OCM discussion, you might find more ideas in that thread re: tweaking the method and trying different oils.
Good luck!!

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