Hotmamacita~I did not have a HB with my twins.They were diagnosed with a VERY rare amnoitic defect at 6 months,and it made our pregnancy extriemly high risk,and also we knew they HAD to be delivered early.They were born at 34 weeks.Maybe later when you have had your babies if you want to know the whole story,I will tell you about it.So I cannot give you any advice on how to deal with negativity concerning that area.But I say you go girl!!!!!
As far as after the babies are born,you will need(in no particular order)
*2 tubs if you can(I found it easier to try to have the babies do as much as possible at the same time.This your SO can help you with,plus its nice bonding time for all.
*LOTS OF FILM!!!!!!!!The best thing I can tekk you is document everything you want to remember forever,either by film,video camers,or journal(best if you do it all,but you may be too busy!)It is so hard for me to remember the first year especially.Even as I look back on the second,its a haze too.I am so glad I have lots of pictures and tons of vidoes.
*Lots of sleepers,and I mean lots if you dont wan tto do a load of laundry everyday.You will have your hands full if you are doing cloth anyways,save your energy for that.
*A really good breast pump.2 if you can so you can double pump.
*2 car seats
*If you are going to co sleep an extra bedrail or 2 will eventually come in handy.Depending on the sleep positions you choose.
*Again and I cant say it enough 2 or 4 if you can slings
*A really good breastfeeding pillow.Ilove my eazy-2-nurse foam pillow,others here like thier inflatable one.
Thans all I can think of for now,maybe others can jump in here and give you thiers too
I dont think you need to worry about asking ANY questions here,we are all here for eachother,no matter how you birth.
Good luck to you all.You are doing soooo welllllll!!!!!!!!