You are absolutly right.. just because a mama stays home and works, doesn't means she's a good mama. But, having worn a wahm's shoes and having worked outside the home, I can honestly say that to work from home the income is pathetic, the work is SOOOOOOOO much harder, and the hours.. well, SUCK.. not to mention there are no health benefits, paid vacation, or paid sick leave. I know that it takes a certain kind of person to be able to balance it all and to WANT to balance it all. And the ONLY reason to do soemthing like this is for your children. WAHMs don't work at home because it's easier on them, because it makes more money (in the vast majority of cases anyway), or because it's a fairytale fun day everyday.. they do it for their children. I can't think of a single other reason that would make it worth it besides our children. Therefore, I think saying that MOST wahms re good mamas is a fair assumption. They might not all practice AP or breastfeed, or even cloth diaper for that matter.. but I think the vast majority stay home to work because they feel they are doing soemthing great for their children... and for me, that's good enough reason to buy from them reguardless of if they use a sling, get upset and yell sometimes, or feed them frozen microwave meals for lunch every day
Ask any wahm if there's any reason besides doing what they feel is best for their children that they would be a WAHM. I doubt you'll find one that would choose to WAH for any other reason. THAT is how I conclude, at least in my mind, that a wahm need not practice AP to be a good parent and most (I would say all, but I'm sure there's a bad fish out there somehwere) are not selfish people. They don't do it for themselves.. it's because they love their children.