I don't know how I missed this thread before but I am glad it is here and I thought I should introduce myself.
I gave birth to my DD at the end of March by emergency C-section. After more than 16 hours of labour I never got past 4 cms dilation, I experienced very strong, very painful contractions but they weren't doing their job. I had the full dose of syntocinon (that what we have here in the UK) to try to get things moving but the contractions stopped and DD became distressed. I realised about 30 mins before they proposed it that the section was inevitable and to be honest felt relieved about it at that point.
The surgical team did a wonderful job to make it as positive an experience as possible for us. My DH was encouraged to stand up to see her after she was delivered and to announce the sex himself. He got to cut the cord and to hold her as soon as she had been checked over. He brought her over to me and helped me to hold her and the anaesthetist took a wonderful family portrait whilst I was still on the table.
However, I had a horrible recovery as I got an abscess in the wound which had left me more emotionally "scarred" than the actual delivery I think.
Next time I really hope to have the birth I still want (natural, drug free) but accept that I may end up with another section.
I don't really mourn the fact that I didn't get to vaginally deliver DD but I do regret that fact that my choices for next time will be severely limited. My chance of ever getting a waterbirth are highly unlikely and that makes me a bit sad.
Obviously, I am glad that my DD was delivered safely but I would have loved to have pushed her out. I was really looking forward to that part of the process.
Luckily, I had no problems with feeding and have been able to BF DD very successfully. I think I would have more upset if I couldn't have BF than about the birth.
Re: food. I had DD at 5.45pm and was allowed to eat breakfast the next day. I think the policy was to allow you to eat once the catheter and antibiotic IV was out. One woman on my ward ate some crisps despite the warnings and was loudly and copiously sick all over the floor. She didn't get much sympathy from the rest of us
. I was amazed she could eat to be honest, I was very thirsty but wasn't hungry until breakfast (and then I was ravenous).