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post #41 of 139
Oh! Something I want to add-- if you know you're going to have a c-section (or even if you don't) make sure that you've got some underwear that comes up to your navel and some pants/shorts that do the same thing. I'm a short person, so I've always worn bikini underwear and low-rise maternity panels because they fit me best. The first thing I noticed when I got dressed was that my underwear rested right against my incision, which was inordinately painful. My shorts did the same thing, and I couldn't get them to stay put when I pulled them over my cut. While it had occured to me that there was a slim chance I'd have a cesearian, I never stopped to think about the practical implications of having a big cut in my lower belly right where my underwear normally sits. I had to run out and get new ones, and they didn't have my size in ladies so I had to get men's briefs. Man-panties! I've suffered through not being able to wear my shorts by wearing maternity overalls, but they look a little silly when you're not obviously pregnant. (At least, they do on me.)
post #42 of 139
Eye ointment is legally mandated in Michigan, regardless of delivery route. Stupid, I know. But we decided to choose our battles and let them go ahead and do it (not until about 90 minutes after the birth).

My experience was quite different from mollyeilis. I think there's a big difference between a c-section that's scheduled and one that comes at the end of a long labor, and that the scheduled ones are easier to recover from. Silver lining, I guess, of not having the opportunity to try a vaginal delivery.

My birth story is here: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...69#post1403769

As for recovery - my boppy was invaluable for keeping him off my incision while nursing for the first few weeks. A friend who'd had a vaginal delivery told me not to bother taking it to the hospital because they had tons of pillows - but with the c-section, I really wish I'd had my boppy. Co-sleeping was a little tricky too - DS had a lovely habit of kicking my incision!

Some people think that c/s interferes with your milk coming in, but I didn't have that problem - mine came in 2 1/2 days after delivery. DS was really sleepy for the first day and didn't really latch on for the first time until 29 hours after birth (but there were other corroborating factors that made nursing difficult for him at first). I think that c/s babies might tend to be a little sleepier because they just get plucked from the womb with no warning and need some time to adjust.
post #43 of 139
Calla Lilly: I think we missed your announcement! CONGRATS on your new baby!!!!!
post #44 of 139
Hi, I'm still pretty new to mothering. I've been lurking/trying to figure it all out.
I'm 3 weeks postpartum with my second c-section.(June 20th- My birthday! How cool is that?) It was a boy. My dd first was born on November 4th 2002.

I'm pretty crunchy in alot of ways- and I was totally planning/researching/etc. for a VBAC birth- but circumstances dictated otherwise. With my daughter- who was a very persistant footling breech- I was 4 weeks overdue, never started labor. Didn't know until the very end that she was footling. She turned all the time! With this baby- I actually started labor 2 weeks late. But then my water had to break- with mecomiun. The baby was doing really well- never any distress- but my contractions, which were pretty strong- never really strted picking up- the baby wasn't dropping, I was only 2 cm dilated- and time was starting to run out based on the water breaking. My daughter had never dropped either. I had the most wonderful OB(seriously- that really says something, as I HATE DOCTORS and think for the most part they are pretty unnecesary)and midwife. He wanted to keep baby healthy though- since I have b-strep, and suggested a VERY low pit. drip. Which we werent going to use since it's VBAC, but none of the herbs I was taking were doing the job either. I knew if I went that route- I would end up needing an epidural- which would leave baby doped up. Or- since he was pretty big- I could rupture, have had pit., and epi, and then possibly an emergency c-section under a general and not see my baby for hours afterward. No thanks. I opted for a c-section again because I know the spinal doesn't really pass to the baby. And my daughter was very alert after.

So, alll in all- I don't have any regrets- and I feel happy that I got to experience labor somewhat, and that I could make an informed descision, and that my OB was so awesome he would let me go longer over due date as long as I was healthy. He also sticthed up my abdominal muscles- which had split from previous birth(I didn't know)and previous OB never stitched them!!!. The doctor and midwife also think that maby the shape of my uterus for some reason just doesn't allow my babies to drop. To which I am very grateful for c-sections or I could possibly never have a family if that be true. But thats a different thread!
My baby was very healthy- and weighed 9 pounds 8 ounces.
Well- I've rambled enough.

I will ask though- what could be the cause of this weird, pullin gpain above my sttches on the right side? Adhesions maybe? My cut feels(or doesn't feel)fine- but this pain just won't go away. Hurts to laugh- etc. Any thoughts would be nice.

Leila
post #45 of 139
Hi Leila! Welcome.

I had that pulling pain too, whenever I turned or sat or stood up wrong. At my 6 week PP visit, my OB said it might be adhesions, or it could be a nerve that got stitched into the suturing. If it was still bothering me after another month, I should go back to see him for a trigger point injection. Mine went away on its own after about 8 weeks. But it was hands down the most painful part of my recovery! Might be worth talking to your OB now to see if a trigger point ijection might help.
post #46 of 139
Thanks for the input!
Is that just a quick shot?
It's reassuring to know that I'm not the only one experiencing this, as my "worst-case scenario" thinking has had me feeling a little worried! You know- like"Wow this pain is pretty close to were my appendix is suppossed to be"...
Well, thats great that your pain went away on it's own- too bad it was 8 weeks...
Leila
post #47 of 139

I'm here... but too late?

I had my emergency Csection 16 months ago now. I'm just starting to recover. May I still be part of this group?
Kimberley
post #48 of 139
Leila - yep, just a quick injection of a local anasthetic and a steroid, apparently.

Vegiemom - but of course you can be member - there's no time restrictions! Welcome.
post #49 of 139
welcome vegiemom, of course you are welcome here! How are you doing with your recovery?

So I haven't had really any incision pain for a while (except during AF I get a little tingly-which btw is 2 days LATE this month and I'm freaking!) Could adhesions possibly effect AF? I have menstrual like cramps but frankly am a bit worried as I haven't had a ate period in over 15 years! I've already had 2 very normal PP cycles too, now this?

we asked for no eye drops at our hospital and they did them anyway..not sure why as I was not in any condition at the time to do anything about it. they did it while DH was taking pics btw and did it so fast he didn't have a chance to refuse it.

we did refuse the bath and got into a little confrontation with the nurse but I just firmly told her NO and that ds was not dirty..I found out later from another nurse that the nurses really hate this as then they have to wear gloves each time they touch the baby as they are considered "contaminated".
post #50 of 139
"they have to wear gloves each time they touch the baby "

Um, I wanted them to wear gloves to touch the baby, for the baby's sake! Don't want those ooky nurse germs all over his skin. Zoiks.


For those who thought my story is bad, unless you've seen my other posts, you don't know the half of it. The c-section was actually the *good* part of labor and birth. I have more trust in the OB than in midwives now...at least I *knew* I couldn't trust the OB...


Excellent distinction with the vicodin/percocet vs codeine. A friend told me that's what her doctor said...it was the reason she was given for having "no" milk, that she'd had something with codeine (and she remembered she'd had V or P). My milk came in about 4 days PP, lots of colostrum beforehand, no problems or real worries.

Beyond the hallucinations, of course. Which are really caused, in me, by ibuprofen. I could never take Advil at work because it would make me high...obviously I should have worried about a 600 mg pill of ibu.


In Washington eyedrops are law too, but as the hospital nurses said (which is unlike how the midwives said it) as a parent I can refuse anything I want to refuse. So we refused the eyedrops. And it really made sense to do so with the c-section, so I'm glad we made that decision. Especially since I made sure I was tested for the bugs they are given for!


I agree with the underwear thing. Get the big huge old lady panties! If you've gained lots of weight (as I did) with the pregnancy even the mesh panties might not go all the way up (mine did not) and that can be quite scary around the incision.

Luckily my hubby is a bigger guy, and his Fruit of the Looms fit well at the end of pregnancy and the beginning of baby's outside life.

Hungry baby calling!
post #51 of 139

Thanks for asking...

[QUOTE=rainbowmoon]welcome vegiemom, of course you are welcome here! How are you doing with your recovery?

Of course, physically I'm healed. I barely have a scar at all. Although it's still numb around it.

Mentally it's been a long recovery road. I truly think that I had Post traumatic stress syndrome from the whole botched birthing process. To this day I cannot say "on the day my son was born"... it's more like "on the day my son was cut out of my hostile uterus 7 weeks too early"... I know, I'm a little dramatic. Anyway, thanks for asking. I work very hard every day to not feel like a failure as a woman due to the csection and the hostiel uterus.

Kimberley
post #52 of 139
That's something I'm having a problem with, actually; was my daughter born, if she didn't come out of my vagina? Sure, she's out and I'm no longer pregnant, but I don't feel like she was born and I have trouble saying it out loud as a result.

The other thing is that I had a really hard time believing that I wasn't pregnant anymore, because I had no labor and everything moved so quickly. One minute I was pregnant, and an hour later my husband hands me this perfect little girl. Our daughter, but when did I go from being pregnant to being a mother? The craziest thoughts went through my head! I remember thinking that I should really stop watching "The Outer Limits" because a lot of the thoughts I had were totally wacky in an Outer Limits kind of way.

Eli looked instantly familiar when he was born. I first saw him at about 20 hours, and I knew right away that he was my baby, I could have picked him out of a thousand babies. Rivkah didn't look as familiar to me, and I think that contributed to the whole "Are you sure I'm not still pregnant" feeling that I had. In fact, I wasn't positive until I went with her to the nursery for an asessment; When I saw her next to four other babies, I could tell that she was part of my family.
post #53 of 139
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Originally Posted by eilonwy
Eli looked instantly familiar when he was born. I first saw him at about 20 hours, and I knew right away that he was my baby, I could have picked him out of a thousand babies. Rivkah didn't look as familiar to me, and I think that contributed to the whole "Are you sure I'm not still pregnant" feeling that I had. In fact, I wasn't positive until I went with her to the nursery for an asessment; When I saw her next to four other babies, I could tell that she was part of my family.
**I'm so glad, that for me, Baylor looked instantly familiar to me. I saw him 48 hours after the surgery, for the very first time! And I said out loud that I think I'd known him all my life. He must have felt the same way because he shrugged aside all doubt and latched on with gusto!
post #54 of 139
Quote:
Originally Posted by eilonwy
The other thing is that I had a really hard time believing that I wasn't pregnant anymore, because I had no labor and everything moved so quickly. One minute I was pregnant, and an hour later my husband hands me this perfect little girl.
I had "phantom baby movements" (like amputees phantom limb pain) for about a week after DS was born. Maybe I would have had them even with a vaginal delivery though... I really loved being pregnant and feeling DS move around inside.
post #55 of 139
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Originally Posted by mollyeilis
I agree with the underwear thing. Get the big huge old lady panties! If you've gained lots of weight (as I did) with the pregnancy even the mesh panties might not go all the way up (mine did not) and that can be quite scary around the incision.
I hated having to buy the ugly underwear, as I referred to it at the time. It was one of the most concrete, visible signs that I'd given up on my hope of a homebirth.

But it was more comfortable.

Back to bikinis now, though.
post #56 of 139
I totally agree on the weirdness of a c/s and feeling like the baby wasn't born.

I was in the throes of pitocin induced labor and then suddenly, EMPTY.

I looked down after my c/s and my gorgeous round plump tummy was mushy and empty. And dd was in the nursery forEVER.

So it was VERY surreal. Then they finally brought her in, all wrapped up and diapered and clothed, and it was like "Hi, stranger baby."

DD luckily looked JUST like dh so I never had the fear of a mixup, but she also looked nothing like I'd imagined her... so it was very very odd.

Kimberly
post #57 of 139
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Originally Posted by kimberlylibby
I looked down after my c/s and my gorgeous round plump tummy was mushy and empty.
I loved my gorgeous round burgeoning belly! I felt soooo tiny after DS was born! Of course, here I am just about the same size 11 weeks later, and not feeling so tiny anymore, LOL!
post #58 of 139
I have not had time to read or post lately. I just wanted to comment on how much I feel like I need to process my c/b with anyone who will listen. It was so strange b/c I had a general and I felt like the whole experience was a dream. My labor went so quickly I started having reg. contractions at 10 pm was fully dialated and attempted to push a couple of times by 1 am and by 2:20 Gavin entered the world through a c/b. Sometimes I ask my husband if he really was in the room b/c when I went under he was still in the hallway. Ds2 looks exactly like Ds1 so I know he is ours. Sometimes I wish we would have thought to videotape the birth b/c even though I had an epi with Ds1 I mourn the fact that I was not able to see either one of my boys come out of me.

one more thing before I go... I am so sick of people telling me how nice and round my baby's head is b/c of the c/b. Especially since he did have a cone head b/c he was stuck in my pelvic bone. Petty but I had to mention it.

Sandra--mommy to Logan 7/8/01 and Gavin 6/3/04 (I still don't know how to do signature lines)
post #59 of 139
you all are awesome.

I've got a nice long list of stuff to arrange!

Can we talk about pain meds some more? was looking at mom2baldie's links (fabulous, thanks ) and learned a little about Duramorph. supposedly it has a lesser effect on the milk coming in, than narcotics. Tammy, you had Duramorph in your birth plan. Did you get it?

So Percocet and Vicodin do not contain codeine, and therefore do not delay the milk. Did I get that right?

If its a planned c/s, with a spinal, what reason if any would they have to give mind-altering drugs?

Did anybody have a baby with respiratory probs. from not going thru natural birth? Toby won't exactly be a preemie, and he'll be over 10 pounds, and we'll do the amnio for lung maturity...but still he might not be quite 'done' at 37 or 38 weeks. Does anybody have experience with this? I'm afraid he'll be snurgly and raspy, and not able to nurse because he can't breathe well.

thanks for your patience and the info. I keep telling myself, a planned c/s could not be that much worse than the horrific induced labor I had with #3. That was bad, bad, bad. At least with a c/s I won't have long, artificial labor, ending too injured and exhausted to hold my baby . Trying to look on the bright side!
post #60 of 139
I had Duramorph. It was great. I got the itchies a little bit - but my husband got some lotion from the nurses and rubbed it into my feet, and that made me feel better. For some people the duramorph is all they need for pain for the first 20 hours or so, while others will have some breakthrough pain. I was in the lucky first group - the duramorph lasted me a good long time, and by the time it wore off all I needed was Tylenol and Ibuprofen.

Re. mind altering drugs - I'm guessing they like to give you a sedative to relax you, maybe? I didn't get anything like that and I still zoned out for a little while when they were stitching me up, so I definitely wouldn't have wanted anything else.

Can't speak to respiratory problems - Liam was a little raspy, but nothing that was of concern to anyone.

As I said in my birth story, one of the things I most appreciated about it being a planned c-section was that they were able to put a warming blanket on me in the OR. The OR was so cold that if I hadn't had that I'm sure I would have gone into shock - I think it's probably one of the things that makes an emergency c/s harder to recover from.
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