This is what my mother says I am, and usually I don't listen, but a couple of things in the last few days have me wondering. What do you all think? FIrst is was the ice cream last night with ds, who had a very hard day (visit to the dentist for a filling -- he is 4 -- which involved lots of drilling etc). I took he and his twin dd, and the baby, to get ice cream after dinner. Long story short -- he went along with the crowd of kids and ordered whipped cream and then didn't like it. Okay, so I bought him a new one (we like to encourage trying new things, right?) We were not even out the door when he decides he has changed his mind about the topping (not oreos, but gummy worms!). I told him no and was sticking by my answer, no matter how hard he cried, until my fiends' son volunteered to go inside and get the worms. The boy was barely in the door when ds decides, no he wants something else and goes after him. Then, he comes out crying that he needs me to stay with him. So I stand in line for 15 minutes with the boys and ds is all happy. Guess what -- he ate 2 bites and was done. Am I nuts? then thre wa the case of the party dress. Our family was invited to a frineds' son's bar mitzvah (FYI, very meaningful jewish coming of age ritual with party). This a.m. we were all rushing to get out the door. DD1 (6) cannot decide on which dress to wear. WHen I agree with her that the one I bought specially for the occasion may be too small, she bursts into tears. Okay, I say, wear it. She sits for half and hour watching TV while I get dressed, and then as we are rushing out the door, declares that the dress is scratchy. Okay, I say, wear the blue one. Well, she can't decide. I give her a final choice, she can't decide, so I say lets go. Much screaming and crying follows (on both our parts!). We are late and getting later. I pick her up and carry her out the door. She wants the blue dress. I say no. She screams some more. She really needs the blue dress. SHe feels ugly in the pink one. Well, I can relate to the problem -- I often go through my whole closet rejecting everything -- especially when I was feeling fat after dd3 was born. So I relent. Sometimes I am very empathetic, but sometimes I just lose it because I cannot take it anymore. Help!
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6/23/02 at 12:03am