The One Thread July4-10 - Page 6

[mom2threenurslings]

Originally Posted by muse

amanda, the situation with your Dh sounds tough. I don't know him, but i do think men often get over the panic about being able to support more kids once it's positive that you're pg. Maybe because it's the last chance they have to panic, and then there's no point. This month I *knew* that i was pg because I had such strong feelings one day that it would be a disaster right now, and was the last thing I wanted. Of course once I poas all those feelings were out the window! Either way, it's tough for you not to get the support you need.

Thanks! It is tough. He freaked out when I got pg with our third ...although he said he wanted another! It's probably just a but-this-wasn't-the-plan type of thing....we decided to start ttc in Dec. because by then we should have saved (nearly) enough for a used vehicle and accomplished a few other goals. I guess I'm feeling a little iffy about whether or not I want to be pg right now because my plan (I have OCD, so always have a plan! LOL!) is to lose lots of weight and get in much better shape before getting pg. Feeling crampy/pressure today ... we'll see.

A question for those knowledgeable about CM ... What is CM usually like right before af versus during early pregnancy?

[mom2threenurslings]

Originally Posted by Johanna

Amanda, you know my auntie (that I mentioned above) had 7 kids and I've heard from her (as well as other people) that after 3 kids it doesn't matter one way or another how many you have, financially or otherwise.

I agree...my dh doesn't quite get it. I think the only time the financial benefits of having 3 (or more) kids comes at tax time! I think his main worries are more immediate things than long-term ... digging a new driveway to accomodate a new (used) minivan (we have an extremely steep driveway and digging a new one and buying a used minivan would be cheaper than buying a high-ground clearance vehicle w/ third row seats, unless we find a real bargain!!!). Besides those two things, the only things I'd need for the baby would be a new sling and some new cloth diapers....which family members would probably buy as new baby gifts. So for me, financially I'm not that worried. If I could only magically lose 50 lbs ....

OT: As I was typing this, my three kids climbed up on the couch and all fell asleep ... well, Haley isn't on the couch, she's standing up leaning against it sleeping. How does she do that? Hmmm...what shall I do with my free time.....

[alexisyael]

Cd 5

OK, who am I kidding??? I'm not someone who can just lurk!!! :LOL

Muse : sticky

Jess -- sounds like you should go bitch-slap Home Depot!

Jesse -- let's get pregnant together!!! : Since Korin and Adina are now opposite-cycle buddies than me

Velvet -- popping in late to say I would refrain from swimming... I'll take baths @ O time (but maybe I will stop doing that this cycle?) but chlorine = yuck! Who knows what damage that yucky stuff causes!

farmlife3 and Amanda

In fact, let's start a

I'm on CD 5, feeling a little bit better. I can talk a good game, but sometimes I'm just sad that this is taking so long (and it's not even that long in the scheme of things! It just feels like forever, since we waited so long to even start trying!) Then last night, I suddenly had this "Oh. But at least I'm getting to try now..." moment of enlightenment. I know so many women my age and older who are single who'd kill to be trying at all... made me feel less sorry for myself. Of course, this was after the million-and-one pregnant ladies in the grocery store, bringing me down!

Belly Blessings!!!!

[alexisyael]

PS -- Korin I loved the new song!!! The original is one of my faves from (middle? high?) school...

Why is it all my favorite songs are about drugs??? And is that why everyone always assumes I'm such a druggie?

[alexisyael]

PPS -- Jess, are you trying to rack up posts or something?

[alexisyael]

PPPS -- :LOL : :LOL :

[Abigail]

Hello everyone.
I'm still here. I don't use my computer at home any more though(bad virus that I couldn't get fixed) So, I had to wait until today... and had to read about 600 posts this morning!

Don't know where to begin...
Johanna, sorry to hear that you got critized on another thread. It has happened to me twice. I just chalk it up to some of us having REALLY bad pms! :

Kate St. thanks for the words of encouragement. Things with dh have been quite good since the talk and I have gone about 5 days without the splitting headaches that I had been getting so something must be right. We are going camping this weekend too so that will be nice to get away.

Waiting4baby. Thanks to you too for the well wishes. I really appreciate it.

Christina, I am with you. I cry over other people's babies all the time, matter o ffact when I lived in Mass. I had to change my route to school so I wouldn't have to pass the crossing guards and all the adorable little ones bundled up.

RaggedyAnn

Shannon! wow you have taken dehydration to new levels. I hope you are doing better now.

Maya and Jo

sweetteach

Christina, wow can I relate. my dh is an electrical contractor too! how do you like that? I decided not to stress anymore and enjoy the summer. I know that he sees it all really differently but I know him well enough to know that he is very obstinate and if I push I will only get resistance in return. He shocked the holy hannah out of me this weekend when he announced that he had started taking libido vitamins and would I wear those stocking that he bought for me from Victoria's Secret. and little else!

I think I had to just give it all back to g-d and know that when I am supposed to have a baby I will. I am not going on bc but if things are delayed, I keep telling myself that I will have more time to enjoy my season pass at Mammoth this year.

I don't know if this helps!

Adina good luck on this IUI. You are very brave!

ciao for now,

the lurker!
PS I want to go to Big Sur! sounds like fun!

[alexisyael]

Abigail, did you get the PM I sent you?

Big Sur.....

[Mizelenius]

Aww, I'm so behind!

Maya, I'm SO glad to hear that the spotting is gone! Stick, baby!!!

I just found out that my IRL friend is pregnant (we obsessed about it together, o' course!). I'm really happy for her! DH said "You're next" when he heard the news about her, but I shared no bit of his optimism and I was also worried that I'll be letting him down when I'm not pregnant.

I have been really questioning the whole TTC issue lately. I waver between feeling hopeless to feeling relaxed (not optimistic, but "surrendering," ha, ha). When I had spotting this past year while not TTC, it was simply annoying, not day after day of agony. When DH and I argue or when DD is a handful, I wonder if I should try at all for another baby. And then I feel guilty, wondering how I could NOT want a baby? When I see other babies or PG women, I honestly don't have a bit of baby lust . . .it makes me very confused.

So, last night I kept thinking that if I just decided to stop trying, I wonder how free I would feel? I wouldn't have to worry about getting DH to GIO at the right time, I wouldn't have to feel depressed for 11 days while I see blood, I wouldn't have to worry how I'd handle another child, I wouldn't have to sit around feeling like there is just something wrong with me, I would go back to work earlier (which means more money, which means a HOUSE) . . My wish of TTC becoming a non-issue could come true if I would change my attitude, and ultimately, my goal. . . after all, how I can I set a goal that I don't really have control over?

UGH. And hey, even though I'm not excited about TTC myself right now, a few BFPs would really cheer me up . . .c'MON, ladies!!!!!

Hugs to all!

ETA: Lesley, thanks for stalking my chart! Makes me feel special!

[Shorin_Mama]

Originally Posted by alexisyael

PPS -- Jess, are you trying to rack up posts or something?

: Shhh! Just making up for lost time. . . . :

And work is boring.

Jess

[KateSt.]

Hi Ladies -- I went sailing for the weekend and look at all I missed!

Congrats Jo!!!

And Muse!!! Congratulations!!!! I'm sooo happy for you -- and so relieved that the spotting has stopped. How terrible that must have been. I'm still inspecting the tp way too often for fear of seeing that awful red color. Sticky baby for you!!!!

Jesse! So glad to see you back! Congrats on cd 1 (or is it cd 2 now?). From someone who normally has loooong cycles, I know it's nice to see af once in awhile isn't it? I'm also so happy to hear that you and Beth will be trying again soon.

Korin -- thank you, as always. And GREAT song! When are you producing that cd??? (I'm serious! You MUST!)

Shannon -- glad to hear you're feeling a bit better. How wonderful to be so far along!!!!

Abigail -- you seem to be doing well. What a relief to be rid of those headaches! I've had migraines myself ...and oy!

Alexis -- I was sad to see the post where you said you were going to take a break from posting (though I definitely know where you're coming from) and then so relieved to see your posts! Everyday I say a little prayer to goddess for you.

Hi and hugs to Farmlife and SweetTeach! Hope you both are doing well.

Adina -- fingers crossed like crazy for you!

I met with my m/w last Thursday -- and it seems I'm a little more pregnant than I thought! She estimated (by the size of my uterus) that I'm about 7-8 weeks along -- which is great as it eliminates a couple of extra weeks of worrying. My hcg numbers were 146,000 last week -- which I think is the highest I've ever had. Does anyone have that link with hcg's to number of weeks?

Hi to Jess, Johanna, Joi, Christina, and Patchfire!

[KateSt.]

Cross-posted with you, Elena.

[Becca'sMama]

cd14 and I think I ovulated

Hi everyone! I can't tell you all how much it means to me to read your posts. And see through a little window other people's struggles and triumphs. I don't even know you all but consider you a great support.
I do not chart but do saliva testing on my little microscope. Sunday I was full ferning so we GIO that night. Hopefully we will GIO tonight and maybe Thursday too. I am thinking that we might not try anymore after this cycle.
It is just so hard emotionally for me. The ups and downs are just too much to take. If we decide not to try anymore then I am going to have to get some serious anti-depressants. I am just so sad. I feel like this is NEVER going to happen. My MIL says that it is God's will. My problem with that statement is that I don't believe that. My dh thinks that it will happen when it is meant to happen. I think he has an issue with being told when to have sex. I can't help it. I know my body and he doesn't do anything to help us get pregnant other than to GIO! he thinks he can GIO any old time and I will get pregnant. It doesn't work that way. And I can't seem to get him to understand that. All this from a guy who thought that women peed out of their vaginas! :

Anyways, I'm thinking that I O'd or will O any day now. I can't really figure out the whole cm thing either. Sounds stupid but whenever I put my fingers in my hoohaa I can't get them back far enough to touch my cervix and if I bear down so I can try to feel my cervix, I pee on myself! :

Any tricks that I should know? I feel wet all the time. Or should I say "moist"???

Abigail & Shannon-thanks for the words of wisdom. I am glad that people can relate to me & my situation. It makes a dark day brighter.
Christina

[heveasoul]

Originally Posted by KateSt.

I met with my m/w last Thursday -- and it seems I'm a little more pregnant than I thought! She estimated (by the size of my uterus) that I'm about 7-8 weeks along -- which is great as it eliminates a couple of extra weeks of worrying. My hcg numbers were 146,000 last week -- which I think is the highest I've ever had. Does anyone have that link with hcg's to number of weeks?

Yahoo Kate!!! Wonderful news! This site was posted at one point...although I have banned myself from looking there... I got a bit worked up with my numbers...

[proudmamanow]

Thanks for the welcome backs
Alexis-I'm right there with being cycle buddies! right now I'm in the must eat chocolate phase of my cycle

Kate--those HCG levels rock!!!!! woohoo!!! and how great that you might be further along!!!! (dare I say it...there is another possibility here that you may have already thought of ..... ?)

Jess--I can relate to boring work today! (which is unusual in my new job) thank god for MDC at such times! oh and we painted our whole house in Dec. happily not with Home Depot paint...but crazy stories from that experience abound..not to mention a sky blue room that I now wish was not sky blue!

Elena --this is such a crazy rollercoaster...not least because the implications are huge! holy s*** a baby!


its good to be feeling ready to ttc again.
I think part of my readiness is sparked by the fact that some good friends of ours (also lesbians) who have been ttc & applying for adoption simultaneously just found out they are getting a little boy! He will be arriving in less than a week & he is 11.5 months old! I am soooo happy for them that they will be parents as they have wanted this for as long as us. But also sad that we are not going to be joining them for a long while!

Anyway--I'm going to get off here so I can go home! and nap!

wish me luck as I called my doc's office to get them to release all my post m/c blood work so that I can take it to the naturopath. I'm not expecting problems...but I also REALLY don't feel like stirring up a fuss right now, kwim?

[alexisyael]

Thanks Kate... It feels so nice having you thinking of me and praying for me.. I can feel it, you know. I send you tons and tons of sticky vibes everyday!

Becca'sMama -- um, yeah, I know what you mean... lean forward as you pee (that helps get it all out) before you reach in there to check! And you might want to work on your kegels, too (not while you're checking!)

It sounds like you might have O'd already, but keep GIO just in case!

And I sure know what you mean. I admit, I've thought of giving up... it's hard every single time I reboot.

Ok -- for today's question: I'm curious, is anyone else doing the GIO every-other-day schedule? I'm trying to decide whether to keep to that schedule (which would be difficult for us on the weekends! :LOL) Sometimes I worry the swimmers get a bit diluted, with all the (fun) sex we have... I mean, if I ovulate on a tuesday, let's say, we'd have had sex fri-sat-sun and then either mon or tues, depending on when I got my good cm. That seems like it would wear the swimmers out...

M says I shouldn't worry about his swimmers!

And the general consensus among non-TTCers is to just "have fun" (well duh!) and not worry about it... but I worry that all our "fun" could be dampening our chances. Wouldn't *that* be ironic!

OK, now I have to go to the library/ health food store...

Belly Blessings!!!

[Shorin_Mama]

Originally Posted by alexisyael

Ok -- for today's question: I'm curious, is anyone else doing the GIO every-other-day schedule? I'm trying to decide whether to keep to that schedule (which would be difficult for us on the weekends! :LOL) Sometimes I worry the swimmers get a bit diluted, with all the (fun) sex we have... I mean, if I ovulate on a tuesday, let's say, we'd have had sex fri-sat-sun and then either mon or tues, depending on when I got my good cm. That seems like it would wear the swimmers out...

M says I shouldn't worry about his swimmers!

I think you should go with whatever you want. As long as you don't have a diagnosed sperm count problem I think every day should be fine (TCOYF recommends daily so you catch the egg). Make sure your guy is drinking plenty of fluids so his "fluids" are ample.

Of course, I only wished I could have gotten Matt on at least an every other day schedule last cycle. He was always too "tired." Now he's bummed about the condoms because he said it's so much better during my fertile times. Yeah, no sh*t sherlock, that was what I was trying to tell you!

Wow, look how I turned this into a mega-"me" post.

Bottom line, GIO as often as you want. It only takes ONE sperm!!

Jess

[Shorin_Mama]

Need your good wishes!

Okay guys, I'm making a plea. In about ten minutes (2pm) I have an interview for a promotion here at work. This position is for the lead design engineer for the backplane (~motherboard) of one of the R&D radios the company is working on. It's a big promotion over my regular junior design engineer job. It may even be a promotion in money (it SHOULD be but the guy making those decisions thinks I'm a dumb little girl fresh out of undergrad with no Master's and no experience -- long story : ). The best news about this job is it actually has WORK to do! Imagine that. I would love to get out of this boring job with nothing to do on a dead program.

So, if you have some spare "get a promotion" energy send it on down here.

Thanks!

Jess

[Patchfire]

: for you, Jess! Sounds great.

On the GIO thing - I think that as long as there's no diagnosed sperm problem, every day's fine.

I was meant to spend the afternoon in a little blow up pool with dd, but by the time we found a store with it, brought it back, and got it blown up - well, it's thundering and getting ready to storm now. Argh.

[mamaharsh]

Cd11

Hi Ladies!

I can't even begin to keep up... I'm in a funk right now, but I'm sure it's hormones and lack of sleep. Elena, I hear you on the constant questioning of TTC and the ups and downs it causes. Nate is just getting to a really great age and I keep questioning whether I want to rock the boat or not. We've tentatively decided to quit TTC in January, so I guess I have 6 months to get lucky.

Congrats to all the BFPs and to everyone who needs them. Hopefully tomorrow I'll be in less of a funk and more able to participate.