I had planned a homebirth from the time before we even conceived. I did an informational interview with my midwife to afind out if I was too old for a homebirth (myth #1!).
I was 37. She told me, "we assume all pregnancies to be healthy and normal until proven otherwise."
She also told me that she is not a "homebirth at all costs" kind of midwife and if there is a reason to transfer we would transfer.
She did have us meet the back up doc who was very nice and said, "I hope we won't have to see each other again, but if we do, I will keep in mind that it was not your intention to be there and I will try and be sensitive to your wishes". Cool guy. Works with lots of midwives. Values them, doesn't seee them as a threat. Wish there were more like him!
Anywa the hospital that we would have had to go to has a c-section rate of like 42%. I would drive that place and just say there is no way in hell I am going there. They call is "cesars" for the c-section rate, instead of Cedars.
i was determined not to go there. Liked the doc, but not enough to meet him over there for a birth!
My due date came and went, 1 1/2 weeks over due, went back to the back up doc to check fluid levels. Amniotic fluid going down he said. All else OK He was supposed to give me three days to get checked again, but the third day would have been a Sunday. He told me I would have to come back on the Monday am to get levels checked. That would be 42 weeks.
The day before the Monday I was pretty depressed, all our planning would seem to be heading out the window. I would have to go and probably get induced and bham, there would go my homebirth.
I sat down and had a heart to heart with my baby inside and told him, this is it, you are getting an eviction notice, you have to come out. I am NOT going to the hospital.
I took some homeopathics and pulled out all stops, basically. (Four doses of Caulopyllum which is homeopathic blue cohosh ) 1 dose every 15 minutes for four doses.
That was Sunday afternoon. Not much else happening. We went to the store and bought bagels and croissants and thought we could feed the midwives, or else we would eat them.
Went to bed. Started with a little contraction about 3 am, another biggie at 5am. and that was it.
Started labor with a bang. The contrax were coming pretty close together and were very intense. The midwife came about 7:30 am. Checked me out, I was at 5cm and then my water broke. she called her assistant and told her to come, that I was "cooking" as she put it.
I was walking around saying F--k and s--t, and rubbing my tummy. It was really intense pain. Wow.
I labored on the toilet for a good while (great place to labor as the pressure was off the head which really felt like it was poking out of me!), then I ended up in the bathtub thank goodness, after about 45 minutes in there I began to push, totally involuntarily.
I ended up getting out to give birth, didn't have good leverage for my feet in there. My beautiful DS was born at 12:43 pm, labour was all in all about 6 3/4 hours. First birth.
Intensity due to homeopathics? Perhaps.
I will never know. but I do know that I had to finally evict the little guy or he would have stayed in there forever!
By the way, when my placenta came out and my midwife checked it out she showed me some whitish spots on it where it was beginning to calcify.
My goose was cooked, as they say, And not a moment too soon. I couldn't have gone on much longer without compromising the health of the baby.
So it all worked out. My husband had called to docs office that Monday am to cancel our appointment becasue we were in labor. How happy were we??
Pretty darn happy.
Anyway, I do think one should be open to all possibilities. But I think it is most important to really be able to SEE yourself giving birth where you want to be. My midwife has said that women who can't really see it happening at home, often don't end up birthing there, meaning, they transfer. You have to visualize it happening. And the placenta too. The whole thing. And staying there. Hanging out on the bed with a healthy baby etc. Nursing. See it all.
And yes, ultimately you want to be where you and your baby will be safe. If you have to transfer, that will be the right decision at that time. You will have done everything else up to that point. Trust the whole picture. It is only not up to us. much as we try to think it is! This babe coming in has their own agenda and will do what they need to do to work out their plan here.
So we begin to learn the dance called surrender that will forever haunt us as a parent!!
Ah but I have gone off on a tangent.
good luck to you and trust yourself, trust your guidance and all around you that you will be in exactly the place you need to be.