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post #1 of 7
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Hello,

I just had to tell someone about something that happened to me over the weekend. I thought some of you might be able to relate. On Saturday dh wasn't feeling well and my twin girls (9 mos.) were getting really fussy. It was quite hot and everybody--including the dog!--in the house was kind of cranky. My girls have always gotten a bit of cabin fever if they're cooped up in the house for too long (they get that from me) and I think they were just tired of being inside. We live across the street from a grocery store, so I decided to take them to the store to buy some dinner and get them out of dh's and the dog's hair for a bit.

My girls are MZ and people tell me they really look alike. They definitely look like identical twins, but to me they look so different because I know them so well. I've stopped dressing them alike when we go out because I get tired of being stopped all the time (and because I want them to develop their own identity). This time, however, I forgot that they were dressed in the same outfits. So we got to the store and I got stopped by people who wanted to look at the babies at LEAST 6 times. That's not including people who didn't stop me but whispered to their partners/friends "look honey, twins!" It was really weird. I'm used to gettting stopped at least once or twice during a grocery store trip, but this time was excessive. Like I said, my girls get cabin fever, so we go out quite a bit. This was the most times I've ever been stopped in such a short period of time. Usually I'm pretty patient with people (dh isn't so patient) because most people mean well and how can I get offended by people complimenting my girls? But it just made me crankier than I already was!

So I got home, vented to dh and then forgot all about it.

The next day was the 4th of July and we needed a few things for a BBQ we were going to. We were in a hurry that morning and I decided to take one baby to the store while dh took care of the other one at home (it's soooooo much easier to get anything done with just one baby). So I went to a different grocery store and had Ava in the cart. And guess what? NOBODY stopped me!! One person said "oh, what a pretty baby" in passing, but other than that I didn't even get a second glance from people. I've taken one baby to the grocery store a couple of times before, but I'm still not used to not getting a lot of attention, like I do when I've got both girls. But the weird thing is: I really missed it! I got kind of annoyed because I wasn't a celebrity!

The really weird thing is: I'm pretty shy and don't really like talking to strangers. So this whole celebrity status thing that goes with having twins was kind of hard for me to get used to. I'm pretty good at putting up a wall so people don't feel very comfortable talking to me about my babies, but there are still quite a few people who ignore the wall and ask me all the regular questions. I just couldn't believe that I was annoyed that I wasn't getting attention that I didn't even want in the first place.

Sorry for babbling. I just had to share this with SOMEONE who might relate.
post #2 of 7
We went through this too with our MZ girls. It got to the point where we didn't make eye contact with anyone so we couldn't be stopped.

The good news is, it lets up as they get older and you forget what it felt like to be a celebrity. Cutting one of the girls hair short and them not wearing the same outfits helped us, also.

Now when I see someone with twins, I want to go up and talk to them, but then I see them avoid my eyes and duck away and I remember how they feel.
post #3 of 7
Years ago when Raine and Eliza were born Mariane , their mother, who was, at that time, a single mum, and me took the two out to a park in Brooklyn where Mariane was living at that time.
A young girl& her boyfriend stopped us and asked if WE were twins.
Me and Mariane.
Mariane has curls, I haven't.
She has blonde hair and I have dark brown hair.
We laughed so hard and the poor girl didn't got it and so I told her that we weren't but the two were.
And so she said "Oh. The two are. cute babygirls."
That was about the dumbest coment she could've made because Raine was dressed in blue and I don't remember what Eliza wore but I think it was red or yellow.
Now Eliza and Raine love to tell people they are twins.
Once in a coffee shop Raine told an old lady who asked them if they were friends: "No, this is my twin sister and we are soul mates not friends."
He was 6 at the time and it was sooo cute.
post #4 of 7
LeeE, I saw your post on the Grief board and want to offer my deepest sympathy.

Soon you will be mama to one pair of twins and "soul-mama" to another pair.

(((hugs)))

Goddess bless you!
post #5 of 7
Thank you.
I shouldn't be online.
post #6 of 7
I agree with make no eye contact, and it does get better as they get older.



**Remember though that for some reason, it does make a lot of people happy--especially the elderly.**


Chin up!
post #7 of 7
Thread Starter 
I guess I didn't make myself clear. My point was that while I get tired of the celebrity status that goes along with having twin babies, I found myself missing it when I didn't get stopped every 3 seconds when I went out with just one baby. I was just a normal mom to a singleton in other people's eyes and nobody stopped me to gawk at my baby. I hate to admit it, but I kinda missed it. I guess I'm just a little nuts..

It must be the sleep deprivation.
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