my wake up call came today when i used the term vagina and dd had to ask what that was..... oooookay time to review! never did find that darn illustration for her LOLLL
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7/7/04 at 10:43pm
|doesn't yet have the foggiest notion of actual sexual mechanics (and hasn't asked).|
Originally Posted by BoobyJuice
I was really surprised recently when some people I knew said they didn't use the real names of body parts.
Originally Posted by Diaper_Addict_Jen
I think that is a very important part of body awarness & acceptance. We don't have pretend names for other parts of our bodies, why these parts?
|Bath time and diaper changes are wonderful times to start teaching children the parts of their body. All parts should be treated equally; penis and vulva named along with nose, fingers, and tummy. Using euphemisms only for the genitals--like "ding-dong" or "private parts"--conveys that these parts of the body are different. This may introduce a sense of shame or guilt about these bodily parts, and also affect your child's ability to report any sexual abuse accurately. Learning the correct names will give your child an ease with, and an appreciation of, their body. http://www.thewellspring.com/Cat/Adu...to_dating.html|
|Fact: Properly naming all their body parts gives children a healthy appreciation for all of their body rather than biasing them against "shameful" parts. It also gives them both the vocabulary and the courage to be able to accurately report any events of sexual abuse.
Parents should treat all body parts equally. Using euphemisms--like "ding-dong" or "private parts"--only for the genitals conveys that this part of the body is different from all the other parts of the body. This will likely introduce a sense of shame or guilt about this area of the body. These feelings usually persist into adulthood, making it difficult for grown men and women to be comfortable with their bodies and sexual feelings. When instead parents say, calmly and matter-of-factly, "Here's your tummy, here's your penis or vulva, here are your knees, here are your toes," they are communicating that all parts of the body have a name, and that mother and father can speak about all of them. They are laying a healthy foundation for their child feeling comfortable talking with them about sexuality issues when they are older, and also for their being able to accurately report any incidents of sexual abuse accurately--an important consideration given that 200,000 children are reported to be sexually abused in the US each year. In 90% of these cases, the assailant was some in the child's family or close to the family. The most common age at which sexual abuse begins is three. The safest child is the child who knows he can bring his problems and concerns to parents and adult caregivers without reproach or retaliation, and has the vocabulary to tell--yet the majority of parents choose not to share that vocabulary with their children.
|When you use euphemisms only for the genitals, you are giving your child a message that these parts of the body are uncomfortable or different. You may, without meaning to, even introduce a sense of shame or guilt about these parts of the body. Learning to use the correct names of the parts of the body will help give your child a sense of ease with her or his body. http://www.parentsoup.com/lessons/at...4330-2,00.html|
Originally Posted by Piglet68
I am not shy about her learning the right words, but they are just so ugly and unweildy for everyday use.