Anyone wish their husband/partner were intact?

[stretchmark]

I do!!!!!!

[polka123]

yup I do !!!!!!

about 1/3 of the men I've been *ahem* intimate with have been intact.

I don't really know how to explain it but it was different & in a better way for them

[~Megan~]

Yes, I wish we both could experience it.

[MelMel]

of course i do....he has pain in the groin area after sex sometimes, as well as some other differences that seem to be from a cut happy doc (his was extensive, not like they are done today, there is no foreskin left, period) he still performs fine, and never thought much about it till it came up during my pregnancy and he was reading some stuff that linked some of his problems with the pulling of an improper circ.

and his dad is intact!!!!! my mil shrugged and said they just all did them then. i know in some cases consent wasnt even sought.

: : :

i am so glad my children are and will be spared any genital mutilation. girls OR boys

[boingo82]

Yes...it makes me SICK that he will never get to experience sex with his entire penis.

[ared1]

I sometimes wonder what it would be like but I would never ever tell him. It's not something that is an issue for me. I am just so happy that he was in agreement with not circing our son and we just found out yesterday we are having another boy. Yes! Not even a decision this time!

[jessikate]

I do, too. Mostly because it breaks my heart to think of the pain that was inflicted upon him as a tiny baby, for no good reason. I also wonder what we're missing out on, you know? I've never been with anyone else and don't ever plan to be, so I guess I'll never know.

[Nemmer]

I do, too.

[moon_goddess]

Ditto!!!

[DesireeH]

I do, too. Mostly because it breaks my heart to think of the pain that was inflicted upon him as a tiny baby, for no good reason. I also wonder what we're missing out on, you know? I've never been with anyone else and don't ever plan to be, so I guess I'll never know.

Exactly what she said!

[stretchmark]

My friend has a partener who is intact and she says sex is better. I may not ever know. I got married young and was raised Catholic in a church of christ school and feared sex for the longest time so I have only been with two men in my life. I shoulda coulda woulda
I never really looked at things from the mans perspective as far as the pain as an infant or never getting to have sex with his whole penis. I love when you all bring things to my attention and make my awareness more wholesome.

[LavenderMae]

Yes, I do wish my dh was intact also.

[3 little birds]

Yep, if I think about it too much I feel like I will cry or get angry. Both for the my dh as a baby and as an adult.

[Doodlebugsmom]

Me too! To my knowledge, I've not been with an intact man. If I ever was, there would've been a condom used, so I probably never would have noticed. I would love it if dh were intact. I think it would increase my sex drive. It also just breaks my heart to think about the horrible pain he experienced as a baby. It just kills me.

[Rainbow]

I'm happy with him just as he is Not to sound snide, but I married him this way and I'm 100% happy with him. If I had a leg removed, or a finger I would hope my DH wasn't on a board saying he wished I had my missing limb/body part. I would hope he would love and appreciate me for who I am without mourning something I had no control over.
I really do know and understand this is a normal feeling, so I am not trying to say it is a wrong feeling.
I'm just saying I've taken a slightly different perspective on it.... this is who he is, this is who I married and I don't really even think about any alternatives.

[A&A]

But Rainbow, we're talking about "body parts" being removed from almost an entire generation of men. So, using your analogy of a finger, it would be like NEVER having had a partner with ten fingers. We just wonder what that would be like, yk?

Funny how you only visit us when you disagree.

[house elf]

I do, too. Mostly because it breaks my heart to think of the pain that was inflicted upon him as a tiny baby, for no good reason. I also wonder what we're missing out on, you know? I've never been with anyone else and don't ever plan to be, so I guess I'll never know.

ITA (I Totally Agree!)

[mattemma04]

I wish my dh would have been given the option when he was an adult(and after having sex for a few years).
I am sad for his loss,and sad that this trauma was inflicted upon him at the tender age of 5.I mean what does a child think as people strip him and hold him down(legs spread) and then someone comes at him with a knife(or whatever they used!). Can you imagine? Is it any better for an infant? I would be terrified if it were done to me.Children are terrified.And infants are terrified whether we acknowledge it or not.

Ofcourse it was an abuse that he was conditioned to accept.Mutilated infants also grow upon conditioned to accept their cut penis as normal and fully functional.

Yes, I love him and accept him as he is,but the loss he suffered at 5 affected his(and my) sexual experiences for life. All this for no reason other than a cultural obsession to cut genitals. Sad

[karlin]

Yes, but I'm super lucky. My Dh is going through foreskin restoration.

[house elf]

I was over at my inlaws today and went upstairs into a bedroom to nurse the baby (breastfeeding makes them uncomfortable because it's "weird" ) and found a picture on a shelf of MIL holding DH in the hospital. It looks like it's been at least a little while since he was born, because he was all cleaned up and MIL's hair was fixed, etc. I couldn't help but wonder if he'd had his circumcision yet. If he had, I felt so sorry for the agony and terror he had endured, and if he hadn't, my heart broke thinking that he was so innocent and had no idea what he was about to go through. I wish I could go back and change that he was ever circ'd. Not for his or my sexual benefit, although that would not be a downside for sure, but to spare that sweet little baby from so much pain. It really angered and disturbed me to look at that picture.