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[HoosierDiaperinMama]

Originally Posted by Shorin_Mama

I bet she's "trying" to use less profanity.

Jess

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[phoebekate]

thankyou all for your support. I was feeling fine when i got up but I am now feeling really crap because my temp is up .3 on yesterday to the lovely 36.92 and my nausea is worse but I am clearly bleeding red and my cervix is soft and open. Last night I was sure its over and thinking "well at least I know I can still get pregnant and that the next few months should supposedly be more fertile". Now I just feel miserable because the temp and the nausea have some corner of my mind saying "maybe there is the tiniest hope" which I know is stupid and is preventing me from moving on. I forgot to get FMU to do a test, so I haven't had a drink and am hoping to squeeze some more out, does that still count as FMU?

[Lousli]

Phoebekate,
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I don't know what to advise you, although when I had some bleeding at 13 DPO my mom said that it was pretty likely that the hormones would stay in my system for a while, even if I were having a m/c, so a pregnancy test would not be too relaible. That being said, I went and bought a very NOT sensitive brand with which to test the next day, to see if my levels were increasing (because I knew that my level was only 46 due to the beta I'd had done that morning).

I hope whatever is happening with you, you will be okay, and we can give you some support here. Please let us know.

Also, has anyone heard from Korin today? I saw her temp went down some, but I didn't see AF on her chart, or a - HPT. Just curious.

[dinade]

I'm sorry to Phoebecate...

I've been through 5mcs and not one of them is easy. I started spotting with Noah at 8w though and didn't mc. So who knows. The only way to find out is to get an hcg blood draw. I pray that you will keep this precious one. Hugs,

[phoebekate]

well I did get out some more FMU and did 2 tests. DH and I could both see *something*, but it wasn't as clear as two days ago where there was definitely a line even though it wasn't strong. I think its over and I feel better to be sort of clear on that, I hate uncertainty. It would make me very happy to have a 4 week cycle this time though I have to say. And I guess I will wean DD now.

[~Megan~]

phoebekate I'm sorry.

I'm nursing too and have been taking Wild Yam capsules to help with progesterone levels after ovulation.
My dd isn't ready to wean yet so this is my only option (that or stop ttc).

[chiromama]

13 Dpo...

Hey all! I know I'm being stalked.... and I love it!

Phoebekate.. many many s I hope you can rest and give yourself some good love. We are always here for you.

I'm sorry I was AWOL this morning.. I'm having a day. My temps is beginning my inevitable downward spiral, and my boobs are less sore, and I'm bloated like a cow.... so I'm pretty sure I'll bleed tomorrow. It's been tough, but I'm sure I'll survive (hugs still appreciated) I won't test again unless my temp goes up tomorrow, or if I haven't bled by thurs or friday.

SweetTeach... ugh, difficult decision.. I'd go for the COBRA, and see the homepath. the best of both worlds. What did they find in your bloodwork?

Adina ... :

[waiting4baby]

Chiromama - Your temp isn't really dropping that much. KHA!!

[chiromama]

ahhhh W4B.. it looks ok now.. but when you overlay all my charts ( fabu new feature on FF) they all drop off around this time.. one painful .1 of a degree at a time ..

[Shorin_Mama]

Originally Posted by phoebekate

And I guess I will wean DD now.

Please forgive/ignore me if I'm getting out of line here. Why are you in a hurry to TTC right now? It seems that your DD is still desiring your nursing and in order to TTC you're going to have to break that.

Jess

[waiting4baby]

So, a gentle slope down rather than the roller coaster ride from h***? May give you a better indication of AF, but still not all that friendly (or gentle really)!! That bites! :

[Lousli]

You don't have to wean to TTC, or even to get pregnant. Lots of women are able to nurse while TTC, through pregnancy, and even afterwards. It is worth finding out if there is a progesterone problem or other hormonal problem that nursing is contributing to. But I just don't think it has to be an all or nothing thing. For me, nursing didn't affect me getting pregnant. For Elena, it may be part of the progesterone problem. Everyone is different.

[phoebekate]

Jess and Lesley DD is nearly 2.5 years, I had to night wean and cut back to 3 feeds per 24 Hrs to cycle at all, 4 feeds per 24hrs and my cycles slow or stop. My hormones are REALLY sensetive to nursing, both my long term (IBCLC) GP back home and my homeopath felt it was unlikely I would conceive while nursing or that I might have trouble holding a pregnancy. This has also been my instinct. So I got my new GP to do a 7dpo progesterone this cycle which was ok, and I didn't start getting a nursing aversion until the other day when my temp went down. I felt pretty strongly that my body was telling me that the nursing was harmful, last cycle I had this earlier. So maybe it is getting better each cycle but honestly at 2.5, when she is obsessed with babies everywhere we go, tells us she wants a brother or sister and DH and I really want another I think pregnancy is more important to my family than the 2 remaining feeds we are doing each day.

I realise it was not at all your intention but this has made me feel worse than anything else so far today because I have put off weaning as long as I felt i could. I waited to see if I could actually get pregnant, if I could sustain a pregnancy while nursing before weaning. Now i just have to figure out how to do it. We night weaned by explaining that to DD that having so much boobies meant that mama's body couldn't get ready to grow another baby and so she wanted to slow down cause she wants a baby but I am not going down that path for the last two feeds and i can't think what else to say to her.

[gristastic]

phoebekate, I'm sorry.

I want to let you know that you aren't alone.

I had several chemical pregnancies before we conceived the baby I'm carrying now, and even then, I miscarried a twin, very early. These ladies pulled me through it.

Allow yourself to feel sad, if you want to. Don't be troubled by those ppl who don't understand, and want to down-play your feelings. Don't let anyone tell you how you're supposed to feel.

[Shorin_Mama]

Originally Posted by phoebekate

Jess and Lesley DD is nearly 2.5 years, I had to night wean and cut back to 3 feeds per 24 Hrs to cycle at all, 4 feeds per 24hrs and my cycles slow or stop. My hormones are REALLY sensetive to nursing, both my long term (IBCLC) GP back home and my homeopath felt it was unlikely I would conceive while nursing or that I might have trouble holding a pregnancy. This has also been my instinct. So I got my new GP to do a 7dpo progesterone this cycle which was ok, and I didn't start getting a nursing aversion until the other day when my temp went down. I felt pretty strongly that my body was telling me that the nursing was harmful, last cycle I had this earlier. So maybe it is getting better each cycle but honestly at 2.5, when she is obsessed with babies everywhere we go, tells us she wants a brother or sister and DH and I really want another I think pregnancy is more important to my family than the 2 remaining feeds we are doing each day.

I realise it was not at all your intention but this has made me worse than anything else so far today because I have put off weaning as long as I felt i could. I waited to see if I could actually get pregnant, if I could sustain a pregnancy while nursing before weaning. Now i just have to figure out how to do it. We night weaned by explaining that to DD that having so much boobies meant that mama's body couldn't get ready to grow another baby and so she wanted to slow down cause she wants a baby but I am not going down that path for the last two feeds and i can't think what else to say to her.

I'm sorry. I knew I was probably opening my big fat mouth when I should have kept it shut.

It sounds like you're almost completely weaned as it is anyway. I bet your DD will enjoy your increased supply with the new baby.

Once again, I'm very sorry.

Jess

[phoebekate]

thanks Jess, i knew you did not intend at all to make things worse. I would say the same thing to someone with a younger baby and if I would get over my issues and make a signature then you would have known how old she is :-). She is nearly weaned but the last two days I was desperate to get her off me the whole time I was feeding her, it was giving me cramps and I was watching the clock feeling like seconds counted, especially last night... I have to listen to that feeling I think.

[Shorin_Mama]

Originally Posted by phoebekate

thanks Jess, i knew you did not intend at all to make things worse. I would say the same thing to someone with a younger baby and if I would get over my issues and make a signature then you would have known how old she is :-). She is nearly weaned but the last two days I was desperate to get her off me the whole time I was feeding her, it was giving me cramps and I was watching the clock feeling like seconds counted, especially last night... I have to listen to that feeling I think.

Sounds like you've really got a handle on the situation. 2.5 years is a LOT of nursing! You're a #1 Booby Mama!

Jess

[babycarrier]

phoebekate

jess: all look like promising signs from your post a few pages back. how are ya feeling now?

well, i think i'm finally jumping in. got first real af this weekend after our loss. i've never been so happy to get it! after the m/c, mw and doc suggested a 3 cycle wait. well, that was in april and i think this might be the beginning of my 1st cycle if that can make any sense.
anyway, i'm not temping now but am going to start keeping track of cm. i didn't realize until coming to this board how much info my body gives me. i think i have pretty regular ewcm and now am going to start keeping track. off to get tcoyf out of the library. I feel like I'm really ready to get started again and : I am so excited!

[HoosierDiaperinMama]

More 's for pheobekate!

[mom2threenurslings]

phoebekate!!!