I think I am going to need a psychiatrist to get through potty training

[thistle]

I dint post this in toddlers b/c it isnt about what my toddler is doing, it is about my reactions.

DD is potty training. The first week she did great. this week, not so great. I am having MAJOR anxiety about this. I try not to show it, though I am sure she picks up the vibe. Pee on the carpet makes me want to vomit. An accident during an outing completely freaks me out to the point that I either have to go in the bathroom and cry or I just leave the store and cry in the car. I know why the peed carpet bothers me- I grew up with dogs. I feel like my reactions are disproportionate though.

WTH is wrong with me??

I's there a Freudian in the house? LOL

[mammaguess]

No great fan of Freud here but I think you are right in questioning your anxiety (maybe I should say reaction to???) this perfectly normal part of potty training. I ended up investing in a carpet cleaner because of the pee on the rug issue but you sound a bit more anxious than even that. Am I reading too much into what you posted?

Good job recognizing when you need help. That is pretty awesome.

[tinybutterfly]

Thistle, sending a (((hug)))! You don't say how old your dd is. My ds#1 was 3 when he was finally potty trained. Ds#2 was 4. Late by some folks idea of when this should happen. I wish I could be more help, but just wanted to respond to your question. Oh, if you use those really thick training pants, you can put on two pair and there is less run-off...and less to clean up. And I just took a plastic grocery bag and a couple of changes of underwear and pants if we had to go out, but tried to stick pretty close to home at first when possible. Sorry you are feeling so stressed about this. tinybutterfly

[Leatherette]

Do you feel that you are failing as a mom if she is not potty trained by a certain age? I think a lot of moms get negative feedback from others if their child isn't potty trained when others think they should be, and feel like they are not doing it right. It's her skill to learn, you can only help her.

My son looked totally ready at two, even had a few successes in the potty. Then he wasn't looking ready, we waited til he was 2 and a half, and he trained in a week and has been accident-free since. Maybe only three times in over a year, when he hasn't gotten to the potty in time. So maybe a break is in order.

Good luck....

L.

[Greaseball]

Well, is this something a Freudian would say: Do you remember what pting was like for you as a child? Or do you remember things your parents said about it?

I didn't pt until age 5, and even after that I had a lot of accidents. My mom resorted to some really abusive methods, and lots of punishment for mistakes. So I've always had this fear of becoming like her. I have a 3-year-old still in diapers, and I want her to train this year but I'd rather have her in diapers than do it like my mom did, you know? So I keep going back and forth about if I really want dd to train or not.

But I know a lot of my anxiety and doubt has to do with my mom.