Has anyone's feelings towards an older child changed?I've been reading all the pet stuff with interest - I've experienced the same feelings, and have to admit that my relationship with the dog really hasn't ever gotten back to where it was. He started doing some really ugly things after Andrej was born that he had never done before, and hasn't stopped doing them. Namely, attacking small defenseless dogs and cats. Often in a sneaky way, and often after having already played with them or shared a meal with them. It doesn't matter if he is tied up or if they are, or if we are watching - he is simply treacherous, and he goes right for the throat. We discussed this with a number of knowledgeable people and they all agreed that he was taking out his jealous aggression on these little animals because he didn't dare to chomp on Andrej : And that we shouldn't worry, because obviously he knows to toe the human/animal line. Still, the thought that he would even subconsciously want to attack our baby freaked me out and it has taken all of my trust and courage to hold onto him and not just send him away somewhere. Now, more than 3 years later, the 2 of them are good friends and I have no worries that he would ever go after Andrej, despite A's occasional provocations.
So, that said, I"m wondering if any mamas out there will admit that they have had feelings of, let's say, dimished compassion or interest in an older child after the birth of a baby, especially if the older child has been acting out negative feelings towards the newcomer.
Maybe you'll think I'm horrible to even be asking this, and maybe it never happens, but I've been a little worried and none of the pet mamas have said much about getting over the feelings, they have only said that they have been able to make themselves pat the grateful or lonely animals when they really aren't in the mood to.