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post #481 of 542
Hello people. Just popping in here briefly to state that recently I've developed the unignorable urge to hurl the tv out the window. Particularly since I have a 3yo who understands a whole lot more than he used to, but not enough just yet, if you know what I mean.

That is all.
post #482 of 542
Hi everyone. I'm not JW but I have a great friend who is and she has arranged a bible study at my house in a few days. Since announcing this study date, I get a lot of opposition and negative comments from other family and friends. I'm a long term member of this site. I was wondering if there were any private groups (i.e. yahoo or whatever) where JW moms meet and talk. I find any place (sorry to offend but even here on MDC), a discussion about JW ends up into a debate. I just want to ask some civilized comments and avoid a lot of heated debate. Do you ladies have any suggestions. Please PM me if necessary and appropriate. THANKS.
post #483 of 542
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Originally Posted by Tuesday View Post
Hi everyone. I'm not JW but I have a great friend who is and she has arranged a bible study at my house in a few days. Since announcing this study date, I get a lot of opposition and negative comments from other family and friends. I'm a long term member of this site. I was wondering if there were any private groups (i.e. yahoo or whatever) where JW moms meet and talk. I find any place (sorry to offend but even here on MDC), a discussion about JW ends up into a debate. I just want to ask some civilized comments and avoid a lot of heated debate. Do you ladies have any suggestions. Please PM me if necessary and appropriate. THANKS.
Sorry, I don't know any place where it is just JW moms. Wish I did.

Feel free to PM me with any questions you may have. I am here if you want to talk.

It is normal to get opposition when you first start to study the bible, but you have to do what you want for you and not succumb to what others want. They are afraid of the unknown. They are not sure what will happen with their relationships with you and what things you will "change" so it scares them and then they start to say things to get you to try to stop.

Hugs,

Lora
post #484 of 542
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Originally Posted by Tuesday View Post
Hi everyone. I'm not JW but I have a great friend who is and she has arranged a bible study at my house in a few days. Since announcing this study date, I get a lot of opposition and negative comments from other family and friends. I'm a long term member of this site. I was wondering if there were any private groups (i.e. yahoo or whatever) where JW moms meet and talk. I find any place (sorry to offend but even here on MDC), a discussion about JW ends up into a debate. I just want to ask some civilized comments and avoid a lot of heated debate. Do you ladies have any suggestions. Please PM me if necessary and appropriate. THANKS.
Gosh, I wish I new a place online like that too. I imagine you could ask any questions you have here, or pm anyone. Take care!
post #485 of 542
Congratulations on the study! I have such fond memories of when I first started studying.

The only group of JW Moms on-line that I know of, besides here, is a Jehovah's Witnesses homeschool Yahoo group that I'm on here.
post #486 of 542
Hey everyone, I was wondering what you all do for school? We are going to homeschool when Dd is older, but I've always wanted her to do something for early education. The problem is that the lessons are all so rooted in holidays and birthdays. Dh says that when he was younger one of the sisters had a little weekly get together for all the kids in the congregation. I'm not familiar with anything like that in ours. We are just about the only young family there.

Thanks!
post #487 of 542
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Gosh, I wish I new a place online like that too. I imagine you could ask any questions you have here, or pm anyone. Take care!
I wonder if we could make our own...on Yahoo or something.
post #488 of 542
Do you ever wonder how many people read this thread? 15000 views and 500 posts to it. Just that if there were a group, everyone would know where it was once the location was posted.
post #489 of 542
Well, one could be set up and the location could be PM'ed to whomever is on this thread. ANd we could keep posting here in case newbies come and want a tribe.
post #490 of 542
That's a good point - I was thinking too - there are enough MDC moms here to make a group. I'm just starting out (as you can see from my earlier post). I tried to join the other Yahoo group but as I am a "newbie" and not homeschooling, I think I won't qualify for membership. I'm having my JW friend do a bible study with me. I'm also very interested in religion, in general. But I'm excited about learning the Bible with my friend - should be interesting.

Anyway, if anyone starts a group let me know!
post #491 of 542
Just a quick questions - what sort of outfits do the women wear at your KH?

I'm curious because I'm going to be attending one soon and need to clarify.

DH and I are on a very tight budget and no money at all for new shoes or clothes. This sounds silly but I've had a huge issue attending any event (church or other) that is formal or dressy. I have severe arthritis in my feet and my right foot is really deformed by a bony bunion. (Sounds pretty doesn't it?) I can wear Birk sandals and then boots with orthotics. I can't fit my foot into any normal shoes. Even "orthotic" shoes don't fit over the bunion. I'm sure eventually I'll find something but these special shoes cost $300.

Going to church - looking dressed up - has been an issue for me until I found the church I now attend. I wear casual pants and Birks and breathe a sigh of relief.

There are psychiatric patients from a half-way house - they attend the church in their track-pants. The view is God is accepting and we should be too.

Anyway, now that my JW friend has invited me to her KH - I'm in a bit of a panic. Can I wear dress pants? I can't afford to buy an entire new outfit with skirt and shoes? I'm going to explain to my friend my situation and see what she says. I'm just a bit worried - it suddenly dawned on me I might not have appropriate dress and shoes!

But I'm wondering what other mamas here do. Once I can save up my money and find and buy fitting dress shoes and sew or buy a few Sunday outfits, that is fine. In the meantime - wondering what is the standard.

Thanks.
post #492 of 542
Dress pants would be fine! Everyone will understand your situation and you might be quite surprised at the help you wlll receive from the friends there...if they know you want to look "dressy" but can't afford it, they'll most likely lend a hand and help you do that - please tell your friend about your concerns - she will make sure you have what you need.

I hope you have a nice experience..and I think it's great you a have a friend to study the bible with!
post #493 of 542
I think that you will be surprised, too, at the helping hand you can receive if you want to look dressy but can't afford it. There is a young man at our KH who has been studying for a few months and coming to the KH. He started coming in jeans and t-shirts because he had no dress clothes and no $$. People have stepped up to the plate and he now has about 4 different suits with shirts and ties that he can wear, and he is SO happy.

Let us know how you like the meetings.

And I think starting a yahoo group or something would be a good idea.
post #494 of 542
Dress pants are fine. My experience with meetings has been that everyone is just happy you are attending, they don't much care about other things.
post #495 of 542
Hey thanks everyone! Your words comforted me and helped a lot - thanks.
post #496 of 542
I just needed to vent to you mamas here....dh and i are back together and things have been going well unil today when after a discussion about the trinity he decided that ds is no longer allowed to go the meetings with me. He specifically said "kingdom hall" so I assume that means service is not out? lol. But he also said he didn't want me teaching "lies" to ds:

I have decided not totake ds tomorrow and it makes me just want to cry, i am praying and praying fervently that he changes his mind before tomorrow, if for no other reason than that ds will cry the whole time if ?i leave him. He is only 14 months and still attached to me....he doesn't like for me to leave him and is with e all the time except daycare (where he cries when I leave)

It will be so hard....I have never been to a meeting without him before. I almost don't want to go but i know that is what Satan wants. I am just so discouraged right now. ?but after doing research I know I have to obey dh.
post #497 of 542
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Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy View Post
I just needed to vent to you mamas here....dh and i are back together and things have been going well unil today when after a discussion about the trinity he decided that ds is no longer allowed to go the meetings with me. He specifically said "kingdom hall" so I assume that means service is not out? lol. But he also said he didn't want me teaching "lies" to ds:

I have decided not totake ds tomorrow and it makes me just want to cry, i am praying and praying fervently that he changes his mind before tomorrow, if for no other reason than that ds will cry the whole time if ?i leave him. He is only 14 months and still attached to me....he doesn't like for me to leave him and is with e all the time except daycare (where he cries when I leave)

It will be so hard....I have never been to a meeting without him before. I almost don't want to go but i know that is what Satan wants. I am just so discouraged right now. ?but after doing research I know I have to obey dh.
This is the same situation that my mom was put in by my father. He said she could not take us to the meetings and could not study with us. She talked to the brothers and prayed a lot. Jehovah will help you.

As far as what she was told, yes your husband can tell you that you cannot take your son to the KH, however, it is a command of Jehovah that you teach your children. So, my mom studied with us behind my dad's back. (She started to study when I was 4 and my brother was 2). We studied for small amounts of time between school and when my dad got home from work. Jehovah will help you! Now is the time to depend on him even more.

post #498 of 542
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Originally Posted by FLDoula View Post
This is the same situation that my mom was put in by my father. He said she could not take us to the meetings and could not study with us. She talked to the brothers and prayed a lot. Jehovah will help you.

As far as what she was told, yes your husband can tell you that you cannot take your son to the KH, however, it is a command of Jehovah that you teach your children. So, my mom studied with us behind my dad's back. (She started to study when I was 4 and my brother was 2). We studied for small amounts of time between school and when my dad got home from work. Jehovah will help you! Now is the time to depend on him even more.


how did your mom handle what she told you as far as your father? were you told just to not tell him? Did he ask? What about field service? How did she train you? Thanks for the encouragement...i prayed fervently and was able to take ds on Sunday, now tomorrow will be another battle to overcome. each meeting will be this way, I can see.
post #499 of 542
Hi! I mostly lurk, but have posted a few times. I'd like to join any group you ladies are forming.

Thanks!
post #500 of 542
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Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy View Post
how did your mom handle what she told you as far as your father? were you told just to not tell him? Did he ask? What about field service? How did she train you? Thanks for the encouragement...i prayed fervently and was able to take ds on Sunday, now tomorrow will be another battle to overcome. each meeting will be this way, I can see.
To be honest, I do not know exactly what she told us. I know that we did not talk about Jehovah in the house and we knew that dad did not like Jehovah's Witnesses and the things my mom studied with us. We did all the holidays, etc., too. To this day I know that Jehovah blinded his eyes as to it. We had to go to church and Sunday School (just my brother and I did, dad stayed home except for Christmas and Easter services). The only time that I remember him asking me anything was when we were watching Jeopardy and there was a category of bible questions and I knew all the answers. I don't remember exactly what he said, but I think he assumed we learned them in Sunday School.

We did not go out in field service. The brothers did say that he had the right to tell us we could not do that. Of course he did not know she was even studying with us, so meetings and field service were out of the question. Plus we were in school all week and my mom was not even allowed to go out in field service on the weekends. She only could go during the week.

It is really good that you were able to take your son on Sunday. Just keep praying and Jehovah will help you find a way to overcome this. And he will protect you when you do things for him, even when they go against what your husband says. My brother and I both got baptized when we were in our 20s and he is a MS married to a RP and I am married to a MS. Dad has eased up some over the years, but really still does not like JWs.

You are in my prayers. If there is ever anything that you want me to ask my mom, or if you want to email her, etc., just PM me. She is open to helping others since she knows what it is like.
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