To whom do your breasts belong?

[PurpleBasil]

Do your breasts belong to your nursling(s)? To you?

I ask b/c this weekend, my husband watched my baby son nursing and said, 'your breasts are his whole world. he has no idea that he (my 3 year old) used to nurse like that, and before that, they (my breasts) belonged to me.'

on that last comment. We're not Christian so I don't know where he is getting that idea. I never thought my breasts belonged to my husband at any point in our relationship!

My baby does act like my breasts are all for him. But I don't know if I think about it like that consciously. I don't leave him with anyone and don't pump for bottles so he does have full access to my breasts anytime, anywhere.

[Raven]

My breasts belong to me. I decide what I do with them - and who can have access to them. As long as my mammary glands are producing breastmilk my nursing son will have as much access to my breasts as he likes.

Now as far as my dh goes..... well.... lets just say if he behaves himself he may be allowed access to them. :LOL

[3 little birds]

We try to be Christian,and my dh knows that my body is mine.

As for babe, all babies believe the whole world revolves around them. Especially the breasts, food, comfort, warmth, closeness to mommy. What else could a babe ask for?

Perhaps your dh just meant that he was the only one enjoying your breasts before the babies came?

[PurpleBasil]

Originally Posted by 3 little birds

We try to be Christian,and my dh knows that my body is mine.

Oh, that's good. I meant we're not Christians who follow the Bible or anything like that. The Bible says in I Corinthians 7:4:

The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

So it was surprising to me to hear my (non Christian) DH use that sort of Biblical command in his observation about my body.

[AllyRae]

My breasts and my body belong to God.... Here on earth, the breasts are mine and I choose to nourish my baby's body the way God created me to do so...just like my body can be used to have a more intiminate relationship with my husband. It's still my body, just being used for different things that my body was created for...

[Rainbow]

They're mine- but my 16 mo old thinks they are hers. She screams whenever the 3 yr old nurses now- and she's seen me nurse both since her birth. So I don't know what it is all about. My 3 yr old totally sees them as mine because she has come to accept that sometimes I choose not to nurse. "yours milk needs break now, mommy?"

[loving-my-babies]

GOD gave me breasts, to feed my child. so they may be mine here on earth, but I don't understand the obsession some people have with "this is MY body and I decide what to do with it" in my case, no one has ever tried to take it away from me. and I believe (we are christian) that dh and I are ONE. so I am his and he is mine.

[Raven]

I think that scripture may mean in a sexual way. As in only the wife may have the husbands body during sex and visa versa. I may be wrong though...

[ShadowMom]

Originally Posted by playdoh

We're not Christian so I don't know where he is getting that idea. I never thought my breasts belonged to my husband at any point in our relationship!

I'm not Christian, but surely being Christian is not synonymous with a husband owning his wife physically?

[edamommy]

we laugh and say that

for now, Baylor has my breasts out on loan. He thinks he owns them. A

[PurpleBasil]

Originally Posted by Raven

I think that scripture may mean in a sexual way. As in only the wife may have the husbands body during sex and visa versa. I may be wrong though...

Well,that's the only way (sexual) my DH uses (for lack of a better word) my breasts! He doesn't nurse or find them comforting.

[IdentityCrisisMama]

Originally Posted by playdoh

...my husband watched my baby son nursing and said, 'your breasts are his whole world.

Am I missing something? Do you think DH was saying that he thinks your breasts belong to your son when he said they are “his whole world?” Because unless I’m confused, that’s not even how I would have interpreted that statement.

But, to answer your question, my breasts are most definitely mine.

[Evergreen]

Yep, they're all mine. But shhhh, don't tell my 18 month old she thinks they're hers. She will point to them and proudly announce (to almost anyone) "My nurse!" with a look like this ----->

I occasionally grant Gr8fldad access to them (he likes them almost as much as she does!)

[Meiri]

They're mine, but for a time each child did find them to be a large part of their world.

I didn't interpret "his whole world" as implying ownership either. I see that as that's how important they are to him.

[Justice2]

My breasts belong to me..but I do remember a comment dh made while I was still nursing (although at the time the comment was made I wasn't physically nursing...involved in 'other' things). I asked him why he didn't 'have anything to do with them anymore' and he said "because they belong to Kaeleb, they are his meals".

[MamaAllNatural]

Originally Posted by playdoh

Well,that's the only way (sexual) my DH uses (for lack of a better word) my breasts! He doesn't nurse or find them comforting.

:LOL

Originally Posted by IdentityCrisisMama

Am I missing something? Do you think DH was saying that he thinks your breasts belong to your son when he said they are “his whole world?” Because unless I’m confused, that’s not even how I would have interpreted that statement.

I think the focus of her post was on the part where her dh said they used to be his.

I don't know. Ultimately my body is mine. However, I have breasts for the sole purpose of nourishing my young so I kind of think for the first two years they belong to your offspring because they physiologically need nourishment from your breasts to survive (speaking anthropologically here). After that then I think they're mine but I'm sharing.

[wombat]

In theory they're mine. In practice, 18mo dd has sole rights to them for now. I know this because if I dare put my shirt back down, even when she's finished nursing, she comes screaming back across the room and pulls it up and demands they remain at open access. Luckily she just does this at home. And if I pretend to nurse her stuffed toys, she flings them across the room.

[IdentityCrisisMama]

Originally Posted by MamaAllNatural

:LOL



I think the focus of her post was on the part where her dh said they used to be his.

Oh, "before that they belonged to *ME*" aka DH...I didn;t follow that. I thought the ME was the mama.

Ah, yea, that would have gotten me in a tiff (to say the least). It's a rare day that I would find that "joke" funny.

Got ya.

[julie128]

nak. they are mine, and i am happy 2 share them.

[mom2threenurslings]

I asked my 2 year old and she said,
"Yours breasts are yours. Mamamilk is MINE !!!"

I believe that sums it up.