Parenting choices

[Basylica]

I'm SO annoyed I could rip someone's head off.
My SIL (she's 20, and I like her, I like all my inlaws) has been watching my babe for me on monday and today, and will continue to watch monday and wednesday until she starts back in college and I need a new sitter.

Anywho, she was bitching at DH about how sucky cloth was, and how they all leaked badly, ect. DH pointed out that you need to snap wonderoos a little tighter than the last snap (1 or 2 snap sockets exposed is what we do) and change him more often than twice in a 12hr period.

Grrr....

She said she's gonna go buy sposies and just not tell me about it.

Then my other SIL came home (she's 24, we are 8mths apart in age) and starts lecturing my DH about non-circing. She harps on this EVERY DAMN TIME she sees us. My mil did too, for awhile. She finially gave up. SIL isn't giving up though, she's a RN and thinks she knows best somehow. She keeps coming up with "reasons" we should have it done.

She's damn lucky *I* wasn't there. I'm normally a very sweet laid back person, but i'm sick and tired of this.
My thoughts are, it's not your damn penis....so lay off!
Makes ya wonder why someone would be so obsessed over the state of a baby's penis really...yeash.

I've totally converted DH to the darkside, He wants to "catch" all our babies, defends the non-circ decision I made, and altho he thinks i'm a bit nutters, cloth diapers happily. Long as there is a clean diaper infront of him, he will change DS into it for me. He doesnt' care wether it's a sposie or cloth...long as it's under his nose!!

Why oh why must I feel like such a freak for doing the most "natural" things??
*STABSTABSTAB*

[Camellia]

I hear ya Mama. Fortunately the only members of my family that give me a hard time for most of my choices live on the other side of the country.

Take pride in not mutilating your sons genitals and saving the earth the burden of "convenience" items like sposies, and to heck with others

[HoosierDiaperinMama]

Originally Posted by Basylica

DH pointed out that you need to snap wonderoos a little tighter than the last snap (1 or 2 snap sockets exposed is what we do) and change him more often than twice in a 12hr period.

Twice in a 12 hr. period? I'd be honked!! Not to mention MY son's penis would be soooo red. That's not fair to your DS and I would really be mad if someone didn't take the time to change him no more than twice in a 12 hr. period.

Originally Posted by Basylica

My thoughts are, it's not your damn penis....so lay off!

[ChristiansMomma]

I think that's what IN-LAWS are for! To annoy us to death! Thay have to defend themselves by telling us we are wrong and thay are right!

I wish I looked into the whole non-circ thing before I signed those papers! My son was only a few days old and I signed him over to pain! That was hard! At least I do know about cds and how much healthier they are for my ds!

[JennInSeattle]

Originally Posted by ChristiansMomma

I wish I looked into the whole non-circ thing before I signed those papers! My son was only a few days old and I signed him over to pain! That was hard! At least I do know about cds and how much healthier they are for my ds!

You're definitely educating yourself on his behalf now!

And to the OP I got it on all sides about not circ'ing! We're talking months after the fact! Why do people care? Thankfully no one has had problems with me cloth diapering besides strangers! :LOL

[kindmomma]

Not to mention MY son's penis would be soooo red.

I had to read that twice to "get" it. I thought to myself, "wow it gets red when they are mad" :LOL
I am new to the whole penis world of wonders, that thing is scary sometimes.
I totally have the same problem with my entire family. I am called names, made fun of, talked about, and many things are done to my children when they go to visit that I have to "learn" about. Why can't people just be respectful and shut - up !!!!!! :

[cj'smommy]

Originally Posted by kindmomma

Why can't people just be respectful and shut - up !!!!!! :

I don't usually get direct comments (except from my SIL she attacked me the other day about my choice not to give Connor sugar. ) but DH's family gives each other funny looks when I start talking about some of my choices. :

[SiValleySteph]

Do you have a choice as to who to leave DS with? I would not have someone watching my son who did not respect my parenting choices and did not follow my wishes as far as care goes. Just your SIL saying that she would by disposies and not tell you would make me reconsider your care arrangements.

Is she watching you DS for free? I can understand you might not have another choice. But if you are paying her (well if you aren't, also, but especially if you are paying her), she should follow your wishes.

And I can't understand your other SIL questioning your decision to not circ? Strange. How is that even any of her business?? I guess I have great family and in-laws, as no one has questioned our decisions not to circ or to cloth diaper.

[ChristyH]

I'm so sorry you are going through that. I would be pissed too if someone was going to buy sposies behind my back and then not change them but 2 times in a 12 hour period. I hope you can get something worked out with her.

I got the non-circ thing too, especially from my mom. She just didn't get it and kept saying about how he will be made fun of. I just shrugged it off and now that he is here she hasn't mentioned it. Ask her if she would like it if someone strapped her down to a table and cut something of hers off!!!

[pilesoflaundry]

Originally Posted by ChristiansMomma

I think that's what IN-LAWS are for! To annoy us to death! Thay have to defend themselves by telling us we are wrong and thay are right!

I wish I looked into the whole non-circ thing before I signed those papers! My son was only a few days old and I signed him over to pain! That was hard! At least I do know about cds and how much healthier they are for my ds!

I agree on the in-laws!

s I wish I did too, it was years ago and they still sorta pushed that health benefit to circing crap so I thought I was doing the right thing. I didn't realize it was wrong until I had my dds and realized if no one asked me if I wanted to cut part of them off after birth I should have left ds alone.

Basylica, that stinks! Sometimes it's nice not living near family I guess because most of my "odd" choices they don't know about. But I have gotten tons of for co-sleeping.

[mama2liam]

I know how that is... I get comments all the time for CD'ing, exclusive BF'ing, co-sleeping, not letting DS cry (ESPECIALLY this one), baby wearing, etc etc...
Sometimes I put up a battle, sometimes I just let them think whatever they want. Sometimes I just don't have the energy or get too wound up trying to stand up for my beliefs, but I totally feel you.

[Izzybee]

What I don't understand, is why someone would feel that circ is a good thing *if* they research it. The only thing that I can come up with is that the boy will get made fun of in school because of it, BUT, at that point, he can choose to have it done if it's that important to him.