They'll never...

[nikirj]

So, after a profusion of "they'll never" negativity from my in-laws recently, I thought this might be fun.

Here are some of the things that they seem to think my kids will be doing for all eternity:

Running around naked (you'd better teach them that they need to wear clothes all the time now, or they'll never...)
Sleeping with me
Staying up until 10:30

I'm sure you guys have plenty of these.

[cinnamonamon]

One of my favorites is:

expect my attention when they ask for it


....see, ignoring them would *teach* them.

[Caroline248]

They will never...

learn to go to sleep alone...

potty train if you don't force them....

stop nursing of you don't force them....

I am sure there are many more....


Caroline

[Parker'smommy]

Of course I have some!!

According to various relatives and friends Parker will never stop-

nursing to sleep!! ( this one cracks me up the most, as if he will need to come to my house to be nursed to sleep when he is married or something!!!)

sleeping in my bed

playing with his food



They act like I have "ruined" him but then in the same breath they tell me what a wonderful kid he is!! Whatever.

[Dragonfly]

He'll never be able to be away from me long enough to go to school.

(This from a lady at the grocery store the other day when I told her that no, my son was not going to preschool, because he wasn't ready to be left in that type of environment by himself).

Originally Posted by Parker'smommy

They act like I have "ruined" him but then in the same breath they tell me what a wonderful kid he is!! Whatever.

Don't you love that? I'm ashamed to admit that I find sarcasm comes in very handy in those moments.

[Piglet68]

Never stop sleeping with us....

Never stop drawing on the walls (which, for the record, she stopped, lol)...

Never potty train....

Never wean...


My response to these statements is "Never? Really? Like, the kid will be 17 years old and come home before curfew to nurse to sleep?" and then they're like "well, I didn't literally mean 'never'..."

"oh", I say... "so what you really mean is 'they'll keep doing it past the point at which you're willing to meet that need' - just so we're clear that it is YOU with the problem and not the child"...

that usually stops them in their tracks!

[eilonwy]

Originally Posted by Piglet68

"oh", I say... "so what you really mean is 'they'll keep doing it past the point at which you're willing to meet that need' - just so we're clear that it is YOU with the problem and not the child"...

that usually stops them in their tracks!

That's so cool! You rock, Piglet

I don't get these a lot. Most people politely ask me why I'm doing the things I do, or they already know. I guess I'm lucky that way.

[teachma]

I totally got "He'll never learn to sleep by himself," and sadly, I kind of believed it. I was beginning to feel like I set up my son for a life-long dependency habit because I heard it from so many people. But, I parented according to my instinct and we slept with him until just two months ago. When we moved to our new house in May, we set up a special cozy bedroom for him with a bed that's sort of a secret hide-away, and he loved it. We haven't slept with him since. And he even falls asleep on his own, after 15 minutes of stories and a couple of songs in bed. And he's not even 4 yet. And the transition involved no tears and maybe just a minor complaint at first. He is so happy in his own space at night, so he was definitely ready! To think, I believed it would literally never happen! The good news is, I won't fall for any of this garbage now with #2, who is almost 4 months old and happily sleeping in my bed as I type this post!

[mamawanabe]

So what nevers are true?

nose picking? If you don't nip that it the bud s/he never not nose pick in public (lets face it - there are quite a few adult public nose pickers out there)?

[jeca]

she'll never stop nursing if I don't "make" her.
She'll never potty train at night if I din't "push' her.
She'll never listen if I don't "spank"her.
the girls will never stop fighting cause I had them to close together.
they'll never keep any clothes on.
they'll never eat all their food if I don't "make" them.

[guerrillamama]

ok, my dad says "you keep carrying him around all the time and he'll never learn to walk."

i say, "NEVER?"

he says, "well, that's why he's not walking yet."

HE IS 7 MONTHS OLD.

[Aura_Kitten]

My response to these statements is "Never? Really? Like, the kid will be 17 years old and come home before curfew to nurse to sleep?" and then they're like "well, I didn't literally mean 'never'..."

"oh", I say... "so what you really mean is 'they'll keep doing it past the point at which you're willing to meet that need' - just so we're clear that it is YOU with the problem and not the child"...

:



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"he'll never eat vegetables if you start him on fruit first."

"he'll never want to eat meat if you don't give it to him!" (said while i was raising him vegan ~ uhhhh yeah, the not wanting a lot of meat thing was kind of the point)

[Corvus]

"She'll never learn to crawl/roll/sit/walk if you always hold her."

My dd was rolling by 4 months old, crawling and sitting at 6 months, cruising at 6 months, and walking completey unassisted at 10 months.

I guess all that holding and cuddling really held her back.

[Marsupialmom]

Running around naked (you'd better teach them that they need to wear clothes all the time now, or they'll never...)

I told a busy body fine we will just have to find a nudist colony and I think she is pretty enough to be a stripper. LOL Can we say that stopped the conversation quick.

[cinnamonamon]

Originally Posted by Marsupialmom

Running around naked (you'd better teach them that they need to wear clothes all the time now, or they'll never...)

I told a busy body fine we will just have to find a nudist colony and I think she is pretty enough to be a stripper. LOL Can we say that stopped the conversation quick.

: :LOL

You are so bad!