Originally Posted by SiValleySteph
Thank you for the input. Honestly, I am more discouraged now.
Not everyone has the same personality or the same thoughts. Mostly it just sounds like it's my own fault for wanting to birth in the hospital and I should just get over any desire for a natural birth. Fair enough, I suppose.
This is not a blatant disregard for all hospital births. It just takes a very strong will and an ability to say NO if you're planning one. With the current atmosphere and increasing cesarean rate, you're lucky if you are discharged without an operation.
I think the women here had some good advice....and are being honest. With a first time mom, the risk of having unnecessary interventions are very high (first time moms typically go past their due date, which could lead to induction, etc.).
Above all, I highly recommend a doula (and you don't have to ask your doctor about one - I wouldn't!) and also reading Henci Goer's book. The fact that you got a bit defensive there means that you hear some truth being spoken, I imagine.
Let yourself get a bit riled up. It's what will help you succeed in your wish for natural birth.
p.s.: About the freestanding birth center, check out the Tribe forums in your area - ask around. Also, I found the following link:
Birthing From Within are EXCELLENT childbirth classes - they dont' focus on natural/medicated births, they focus on personal empowerment for you and your partner about birth and parenting - and a whole lot in between. I highly, HIGHLY recommend them! http://www.heartandsoulchildbirth.com/
(this woman is a doula, too! Plus, I'll bet she has some great leads on providers that are supportive of natural birth!!) I can tell you that you'll get far more from a BFW series than any other childbirth class. I cannot say enough good things about it.
Hey, in addition, these CNMs might be a great place to receive some solid support for natural birth. I know I'd see most CNMs over most OBs any day for a normal pregnancy! http://www.midwifeinfo.com/mi_show.p...in=kavitanoble
Here are some midwives that practice around you - and a couple doulas (http://www.cooladoula.com/
), too. Perhaps even calling one of them and talking about what they know in regards to supportive hospitals, birth centers, etc., might help...I get calls like this all the time and I'm happy to help: (I do know that Karen Ehrlich is a kick-ass midwife!!) http://www.birthpartners.com/search/results.asp
You are in a GREAT area for childbirth options. San Jose is near Santa Cruz and everyone knows that some of the most world-renowned midwives came from Santa Cruz! You have so many OPTIONS. Seek them out. You deserve to have an empowering first birth. So many women come to homebirth only after a horrible first hospital birth. You deserve to bypass that trauma - you can have a positive birth, but it really does depend on who is supporting you, who is caring for you and where you're giving birth.
Natural birth CAN happen in the hospital. It just takes more work.