Yep, we're still here~Nov/Dec '02 mommas&babies~ - Page 9

[Mona]

abranger- couldn't get your sig line link to work ....

[MamaFern]

elwynn is just soOOO sensitive. and every time i try to stop nursing him at night he freaks out and sobbs like its the end of his world and then i cant do it...plus im scared that my landlady will evict me if he cries all night. i live in a basement suite..ick

[lilyka]

hello ladies . . .

Wow its been a long time since I posted. I actually convinced Ava to sit on the potty for a while several times today. She even wre panties for a while. peed in them both times. Nothing in the potty. Oh well. I think my oldest was completely trained by this age, but then again I had nothing but time with her.

About not pooping in the potty. This is pretty common. Lilyka went on a year like this. She potty trained instantly one night (that is so her personality to go from being totlaly unintrested and then done in a matter of seconds) anyway, we weren't stressing about it because she would go get a diaper for pooping in , do her business and then come for a change. whatever. One day she just decided it was time to poop in the potty. Hopefully Ava will suddenly PT in the next coupld of months just that easy.

Ava weighs about 26 pounds and wears a 3T in clothes. SH eis tall, (don't know how tall exactly but compared to other kids her age and how tall her sisters were at this age it appears she has gotten some latent height gene. heaven know she didn't get it from dh or me or anyone in our immidiant family. we are all a bunch of shorties) Her shoe size is about a 5 1/2. She just moved up. That would be 5 1/2 normal. not wide or narrow.

She pinches. Drives me crazy. I don't know if she means to do it but dang it drives me crazy.

Weaning - she has been down to nuring once a day for almost 6 or 7 months now. I got a killer case of mastitis and could not nurse through it. She was also sick at the time and too lathargic to care. Once we both got better she was less than intrested. lately she has been a wee boit obsesed with nursing but I don't care to start back up a again at this point. My other two were weaned around thier 2nd birthday and that just feels like a good place to stop. Also she is still tounge tied so it hurts like craziness still everytime she latches on. But she has never needed to nurse to sleep so that has been locking us into it like it did with my other two. She nurses away for a good hour every morning.

Anyway, that is all.

[abranger]

I think I fixed my sign line but here it is again http://georgiarose.home.comcast.net/ hasn't been updated since march though. I will make dh get on it next week

Amy

[tea olive]

wow......many of you sound just like how i felt the first and second time around. nursing ain't so fun sometimes. nighttime is hard. hitting is bizarre. why is it all my fault since i'm the mamma. i feel it this time around too but not so keen, so sharp it hurts me to the core. the difference for me now is that i have done it already and have more confidence in myself as a mamma. i urge y'all to find that fire in you, the heart the speaks what you want. the worst mistakes i've found with parenting is my regrets of not following my heart. i cannot predict the outcomes for my child. but i do have to live with myself.

the hitting. remember that they do not necessarily have the intent we adults ascribe to it. having a physical body and clumsily moving it around and trying to express ourselves is truly hard. only when an adult does the hitting it means actual violence - when one has the will power to stop it and intends to inflict harm anyway. our babies are just babies. meanwhile, it's taken me years to sort of live with it okay in this world. my three is hitting and throwing lots lately. it is worse that i'm getting irritated by it but he is really hurting ruby. i need to quite fighting it she can wail and defend herself quite nicely. i still think it is better than him holding it in internally. reed has almost completely quit the obvious though not the annoying stuff. he is almost six. i think five is the usual latest age for cessation of any hitting without any interference - i'm talking anthropologically/biologically. many kids just do it and quit. or now and then. if it makes you feel better my kids are have been commented to be quite ornery/spirited/wild by many irl mammas.

i'm finally recently okay with the fact that i'm doing a good job anyway. it's taken me almost six years. i don't want it to take six years or longer for any other wonderful mammas to realize that they are doing a fine job. say to yourself, i am the best mamma for my baby/babies. i am doing my best and they are too and everything is fine. we need teleportation devices so i can come hug y'all.

ruby is huge i have no idea how much she weighs. she wears a size eight stride rite, her and reed have the wide and thick feet. do not fret about your child being smaller. haha, i fret about them being big. people think they are older and expect better behaviour. i have enjoyed the compliment of weight associated with health but my back has not appreciated the burden so much. they will all be adult size one day.

[kerc]

Originally Posted by MamaFern

i just need some space!

me too!

[kerc]

shoe size .... bigger than 5, smaller than the 6 sandals we have (her feet keep popping out, but the 5s are too small ). height ? weight? 23 lbs maybe. and she's in 2T. She'd be in 3T pants, but I sew many of her clothes and make the 2T size with room in the rise for dipes.

she's pooped in the potty a total of two times now. she tried yesterday afternoon (apparently, dh was home) and couldn't get it out. but then pooped about 10 minutes later in the diaper.

I am working a "normal" working schedule this week and miss her like crazy! Normally only about 25 hrs of my work time is when she's awake. This week it is more like 40. Plus I am working with two people on a project who don't have kids. They just don't get it. Ahh well, it will all mean nice progress towards my degree.

[*solsticemama*]

We're off on our journey today mamas. My SIL had her baby last night so I think we'll be taking a short detour to go and see them before we head out. She had a little boy 8 lbs 12 oz. I haven't been around a newborn since ds was one so I imagine alot of memories and impressions will come flooding in.

Have a great couple weeks mamas. I'll be thinking of y'all

[alibuff]

Hi all

I haven't been getting the notices from here either (

Anyways...

Ursula is 27 or 28 lbs (has been since she was 9½ months old)... at her 18 mths well-baby visit, she was 33½" tall... grew 2½" in 3 mths!

She wears a size 6 shoe... normal width.

Clothing? Size 24 mth or 2's... barely ever put bottoms on her though... her bottom is big... esp. in cloth diapers.

She can easily wear other bigger sizes though... she fills them out well! lol Just they might be a little longer... like, she'll want to wear her sister's clothes

Night time nursing... its getting better. Recently, she'd wake up, I swear, every 1 to 2 hrs to nurse! It was driving me crazy! But, I figured it was some sort of growth associated with that and went with it. Now, she wakes up about 3 times a night to nurse... which I can easily tolerate! lol

I can get through a good bit of this because of having an older child who never really night-weaned until I weaned her at 4 yrs old. Not sure at what time, but, eventually, she'd only wake up once a night to nurse. But, I knew she could go through the night because by the time she was 3 yrs old, we'd let her sleep over at her grandparents' house for a night at a time.

Hitting, biting, pulling hair... all things my firstborn didn't really do (she did go through about a month of biting)... Ursula does all of them. Its really driving me insane. My sister and her 2 girls were here from last Tues. to last Sat... her youngest dd is 3 mths older than Ursula and Ursula bit her 5 times in that visit!!! It wasn't like they weren't being watched either! It would happen right in front of us! Now, my niece did push, poke, and scratch Ursula first... but,... yet, Ursula seems to really love other kids... follows them around and imitates them... LOVES babies... will kiss their pictures when she sees them... its just crazy... I see this sweet little toddler of mine... then, next thing you know, she's biting others... and most of the time, its not out of anger. And, usually she doesn't hit or bite me... the only time she hits me is to get my attention. She'll sometimes hit me or grab my hand to lead me to where she wants to go.

Speech... my oldest was talking really early... singing songs by the time she was 2 yrs old. Ursula... she's just now trying to talk. However, like a lot of you have commented about your own children, her understanding is incredible!

Screaming... both of my girls love to use their lungs and vocal cords to scream... I'm SO glad I don't live in apartments! lol

Potty learning... I've been putting her on the potty in the mornings since she was like 6 wks old. Nowadays, sometimes she'll let me know she has to pee or poop. Other times, she just starts pulling at her diaper and complaining about the wetness. And, it doesn't seem to make a difference if she has on cloth diapers or is naked... because if she's naked, sometimes she'll tell me about having to potty, other times, I have to go clean up after her... good thing we don't have carpet! lol

[alibuff]

Here's some new pics of Ursula:
http://photobucket.com/albums/v372/alison73/Ursula/

[eilonwy]

Eli has been wearing underpants all day today! The same pair!! Right now, he is talking to one of his beloved maps. :LOL

Yesterday, I saw a podiatrist and I asked him where to find shoes for Eli's feet. He looked down at them, said "Wow! That's a good question!" My son can't be the first kid on earth to have feet this wide... so what did they do, back in the day before shoes came in set sizes in a box? Will I have to take him to a cobbler and get shoes made for his feet? : I'm almost afraid to find out what that'll cost.

I'm going to put a bunch of stuff on the trading post, hopefully tomorrow but if not then Monday morning, and then I'll put what's left on eBay in lots. Hopefully I'll be able to get Eli some shoes in the first week of September.

A question: If you're planning on having more children, is it worthwhile to sell your newborn stuff anyway? What about hand-me-downs that your kid won't be able to wear for at least three or four years, if not more? What would make you sell it, and what would make you keep it?

[Brayg]

Rynna--there's 7 years between my kids so I don't even bother to save anything. All of Jacob's clothes get ebay-ed when we're done with them to make some money to buy (at thrift shops and garage sales, of course) new ones.

Owen is 25 lbs wet with a full belly. He can wear some 12-18 month stuff, but usually I put him in 18 month things...a few 18-24 month, although I find that they fit fine w/a fitted dipe and cover, but fall off with a fuzzi bunz! :LOL

[MamaFern]

im not keeping all of elwynns baby stuff but some of it that i LOVE i am..i dont even know what i will have another.. but they are specail to me..the first little things he wore..maybe im just a sentimental fool.. but oh well

[alibuff]

I've kept some things from Calista and put them on Ursula if the timing (age and season) were appropriate. The rest I hand down to my sibs' newborns I just let my sister bring home my infant carseat and base, swing, vibrating chair, and Boppy. Had all four since Calista and they're almost still new (except the carseat... used that all the time, of course). My sis is due next month. And, I'm okay if I don't get them back. Because as I've said, I've had them over 5 yrs now and should I conceive again, I'll just buy new ones... since I guess they don't do baby showers down here past the first baby... lol

[tea olive]

i've ended up keeping some items from each kid which was totally learned. i keep culling it down. when i had reed my mom sent me boxes and boxes of all our baby clothes for me , my brother and sister. even the stained and ragged diapers. though i could only use some of the clothes, it is really cool seeing my kids wearing something i did or remember my brother wearing, especially since most were from taiwan and unique. so i'm sunk for now, i've got a little box in the closet. i also have about ten feltman bros. items from damen's side of the family that i can't get rid of until his sisters have a baby. i did find that some of the newborn stuff i could use for all the babies, but they have varied with size, season and personality than i expected and thus most clothes have not made three rounds. i'm painfully aware of how i sound like a rich american here.....

my kids are usually barefoot until the heat of the summer makes the asphalt ridiculously hot. ruby has been wearing her too small clog style slides all day inside though. clay has very narrow, thin feet when reed and ruby have only fit some stride rites and birkenstocks and rubber boots. maybe robeez come in wide?

[mum5]

Hi Mamas, I am sure that no one remebers me, it's been a long time since I posted on here.
I am expecting # 2 baby bean in Feb 2005, so I have been up there checking things out, kind of neglecting little dd. She is 20 months old, was born Dec 3rd and is just a little darling. We just love her so. Except when she bit my bottom they other afternoon, oh yes, and when she runs out into the road at warp speed. KWIM???

Anyway, just wanted to say hi, and hope I will be more active on this thread.

[**guest**]

Ella-makes-3, I remember you!! How can I forget someone from RI??!!

Hope your pregnancy is going well. I'm a little envious. lol.
As for your toddler running into the street...I don't let my ds NEAR the street. He loves trucks so much that i just know he'd make a beeline for them. I have to admit, If we are going to be playing near a road, I will use a harness on ds. Yep, a harness. I don't care how it looks...as long as it keeps my precious one safe! Besides, he LOVES the fact that he can roam around 'free'. It makes him feel more in control. And it gives me peace of mind. heh heh.

Hi to everyone else! Hope you all have a good weekend!!
Hugs,
Liz

[alibuff]

Baby Harnesses

Originally Posted by lizc

If we are going to be playing near a road, I will use a harness on ds. Yep, a harness. I don't care how it looks...as long as it keeps my precious one safe! Besides, he LOVES the fact that he can roam around 'free'. It makes him feel more in control. And it gives me peace of mind. heh heh.

Liz

Hey Liz
My mom used a harness for my brother when he was little (he's now 27). She said she'd get 3 different reactions from people when we'd go out. The elderly people would say, "ooooh, poor baby!". The teens would bend down and pretend to call a dog, and other mothers with toddlers would ask her where she got it from! lol
I've never used one... but, I don't have one either... LOL I totally understand using it... in this day and age, its not just traffic you have to watch out for. And as much as our little ones seem to like to run away from us (freedom!!!)... I might have to check out finding one for Ursula. She's no longer content to be in the grocery cart... and putting her in a harness would much easier on both of us... one time, by the time I got to check out the groceries, she was screaming to get down. That lasted for at least 10 minutes... lots of groceries... and it was just me and her... she was wriggling to get down and screaming... so, I switching arms, trying to hold her in different positions... nothing was working... she wanted to get down. Now, I'm not saying that the harness would prevent such outbursts... but, it might have helped at that time... and yes, we got PLENTY of looks...

[eilonwy]

I've used my sling as a baby harness. BeanBean actually asks for it, because he knows that I won't be holding his hand if he's in it. He feels more free, and I can breathe. :LOL I think that if I didn't have to worry about BooBah's head bouncing around, I'd just chase him, because it really doesn't bother me when I'm not hugely pregnant or holding BooBah.

[majazama]

Rynna, I just wanted to say that I used to call haeven boo-bah, and sometimes boobajew (baby girl?) It's funny how baby's nicknames develop. My girlfriend called her baby isaboo, as in, it's a baby... So endearing.

I've taken your recommendation on how to use the sling, casina, and it now seems to work half the time. I'm always concerned that the baby is comfortable. It's hard to bend over with the sling, or any baby carrier, actually. I have a wrap sling that I made that I really like. she is so close and comfy.

About gentian violet.... what is it made of? Does it really work for short term or long term? Cause I think my babe might have thrush.

I'm so paranoid about my little one... I've been thinking that she has a "bubble palate", tongue-tie, and now thrush. I had a LC come over to the house and she thought she might have thrush. She's gaining weight "averagely", but not enough for my comfort. Haeven gained 3.5lbs in her first month!!!!!!!!!! I want a nice fat baby like that again. Samaya gets so upset when she nurses, like she's not getting enough, or she doesn't want to nurse, or all of the above.

sorry about the rant, I just have to let it out, and my mom went away for a camping trip. I usually talk to her about all this stuff.