jasanna, i'm sorry i totally forgot to answer that question. i started on the nojo. it was easy to acquire. the padding made me less worried in the beginning, and the adjustability helped. we quickly outgrew it. i started making slings. i make a ring sling and a pouch and have fooled with the designs and fabrics and made some for others. the pouch is tricky to fit but loveable if it does fit perfectly. i recommend it for once the child is a certain size. i have friends that swear by the pouch no matter what, which sounds like what you have. the good thing is that you cannot fool with it and it is the least bulky and you never worry about it slipping and changing size or getting loose on you. the bad thing is that you cannot fool with it and i had my newborns laying nursing while after about six months they can sit up in it. then it is even more comfortable. but again, i have watched others sling their newborns upright and nurse.
i'd be glad to make you a sling or send you one of my used ones. how tall are you? the one i use the most now is a pouch with fifties housewives on it. i find the print irresistably ironic. unfortunately it is not fit to market because of the way fabric is....
i'm proud of my wild animal children. they are passionate aggressive and wholeheartedly loving. the other day reed took his kung fu uniforn test and he can do a full split sideways and chinese, and do a backbend from standing.
i need to get my camera working! but it is usually dh's territory. old habit. reed decided to take the bag off and the entire daycare was yelling at him because he was naked and ten feet up in the tree. the site has deleted my naked pictures before so i don't bother anymore. that's why there are no funny nursing pictures either. one day i'll get it all figured out, though i'm not sure about having my own website.
i'm really glad you, mamajaza, and mamafern are here. it is part of why this thread is so interesting. i hope you can work out the haeven and elwynn dynamic. by that i mean that you two can be peaceful about it even if the kids aren't. it is tough since you are family and need each others community. i have been on both sides of the aggressor and the attacked with reed at that age and reading your posts i can remember how it felt either way. it sucked feeling helpless and frustrated and pained that somehow as a mamma it was my fault and trying to figure what to do to fix it. especially when i needed the company of the mammas. and parenting the aggressor i find harder because i cannot take a moral stance. generally it has been easier to retreat or to meet at public spaces so there is less of a territory issue, or in a group gathering. but sometimes it got to where i couldn't be friends for awhile, at least in person. i have a friend i dearly love, one of the best mothers i know, that i cannot visit with the way i would like because our kids are so intense and it has happenned repeatedly with different kids since we have three each. i hate to even suggest it could happen that you would need to take a break from seeing each other if it gets too hard, but i think y'all need each other and it is better that the hitting does not divide you. i have dealt with it too many times. they are just babies. what the children do is not a reflection of you. how you react is the reflection of you.