Yep, we're still here~Nov/Dec '02 mommas&babies~ - Page 33

[majazama]

My DD is the *same* way! She calls boots, boogers...wil not say yes.....says "Maya" for Samaya, and uses maya for a lot of other words My DP really doesn't like it when she doesn't use the right word, and they will "argue":LOL, but I think it's cute! I know shes just a strong independant grrl, and will be a good talker once she wants to.

[Bethkm]

The whole language thing is amazing to me. DS has a lot of his own words for things but I am sad to say some of them are disappearing. He used to call his drink/cup "go-go" but now he says drink or cup or water. About the only one he says anymore is the one for stroller which I couldn't begin to spell. DH uses DS' own words, I tend to repeat the correct one. I guess that's why they are disappearing.

Ooops, DH is getting him out of the tub. Jammie time.

[MamaFern]

elwynn is pretty good with words but he does have his own too.. he says "goh gosh" for all gone and "hide" when he wants the other boob. he started to call nursing boob.. he is nursing a lot these days and is really really whiny and very attached to me. ive been pretty busy painting for the last few weeks and i think he's feeling upset about it, but im still right there! i just dont want him in the room with paint fumes. i think his dad feels upset because i have had a friend staying with me and elwynn seems to get along with him better.. but i think its because my friend just gives elwynn anything he wants?! im not sure. i hope that they figure it out with eacother so no one feels bad for too long. do any of your little ones prefer you over your DP? is it normal and are your littles teething right now? i get the feeling that the whininess is due to pain in the mouth. its my best guess anyways. potty training is going very well. he's had dry pants for two days with only 2 tiny leeks and we made it to the potty to finnish up. im so proud!

[tea olive]

mamafern, sometimes some people just get along better than others, and kids have a special instinct for those people that are open and nonjudgmental and respectful. and of course ones that will do anything for them. and yes, this crosses family lines since we are such individuals in this society. if your dp has any fears about being a dad, i would imagine that elwynn can sense it. and no, there's not much you can do about it. it is their relationship. even in my very bonded marriage i have had to learn to step away from the politics between the kids and dad. i have to trust that he is daddy and and they all do what happens. otherwise is it just meddling where everyone just gets mad at me. now on the other hand, my best friend has done very well with her ex and her dds - she has facilitated their relationship by making sure that they have access and freedom with each other, to the point where he is a better dad than we expected. but still, how he interacts with them personally is beyond her control (yes, even when he talks bad about her, which is starting to only make him look bad), and kids are smart enough to know that it is separate from mamma if she is not in the thick of the problem.
maybe you can find a way to ventilate the paint fumes. maybe a fan pointing out a window? or possibly he would find a mask amusing. if he is tolerating being around you while you do any kind of work, i strongly recommend you facilitate this very special boon so that you can reap the rewards. i sure wish i had and this is one of my biggest struggles - learning to be me and mamma at the same time.

mona, unfortunately, this is how kids (and adults!) learn that stoves can be dangerous simply by the consequences. i have found that i have an easier time with this since i started having a gas stove (obvious flame). hope you don't feel too bad about it otherwise. it definitely does not reflect on your parenting! these kinds of things happen to many of us mammas.

and bethkm, same for you on the fall! i'm sure you are more than a decent parent and accidents happen. we cannot protect them from everything, and we should not or nothing exciting would ever happen. uhoh, i might be quoting finding nemo. when i was in new orleans for a wedding ruby slipped on the wrought iron chairs and had a big goose egg on her head. she tends to howl more because she's mad that it happenned rather than the actual pain. i did feel bad but not enough to leave and had to remind myself that a big bump on the outside was better than a concussion on the inside. i think it is our reactions that count at this point - showing that we love them is more important than feeling fearful and angry, though that has it's use as well.

sorry gals, i know that ruby might be a little less frustrated when she can talk, but i'm just enjoying her lack of command. i do love hearing her little voice and her wonderful words and singing, but my atmosphere is filled with verbage already. being able to talk does not mean that they know what they want, and her lack of talking keeps me from trying to reason with this itty bitty child.
i have little pieces of modeling clay and playdoh everywhere now but no more water and food slurries and potions from her. it's a compromise. i've given up on the drawing for now. i'm just so thrilled i have a child that draws at all. this also means i am tattoed with marker and pen. i've been rubyfied!

[Bethkm]

I totally agree Casina. We can't protect them from everything and I feel Tyson has learned some valuable lessons by experimenting and sometimes getting hurt.

Well, the penny saga continues. We are going for an abdominal x-ray after his nap this afternoon. I'm dreading it because he is so scared in any new situation. I'm worried that the penny is in there and they'll have to go get it, but I'm also worried that it's not in there and he never really swallowed it and this is all for nothing. DH was alone with him when it happened and now he is second guessing himself. I guess there's only one way to find out....

[tea olive]

well, i went back to bed with this feeling of peace and how we all just need total acceptance. especially me towards my kids and here i am feeling sour having broken some of my rules. i have already threatened daycare and school and even implied than females may be better than males which is a first. ugh. now i have the rest of the day to forgive myself and get out of this funk and learn to be in the now. it just gets so hard sometimes to be this mamma that i intellectually know i can be and am able to be sometimes, when i wake up acting like my own mom. it is partially my fault for allowing them some of halloween and the sugary wrecks they are and them staying up til midnight the past few nights and still popping up early. they do not have the discipline to understand those consequences and i will just have to learn to have the discipline for them and find the adult in me. bleah!

[eilonwy]

I get a kick out of it when BeanBean talks. I especially enjoy it when he freaks people out, but I work extra hard not to make a big deal about it. Sometimes he doesn't want to talk to people, and sometimes he does; I don't push him either way. I'm confident that he'll let me know if he needs something, and I don't feel like his speech (or lack thereof) is any comment on my parenting or anything I've done, so it's just not a big deal to me. It's fun, but it's not what I think of when I think of my son, you know?

We're having a birthday party for him on Saturday. A small gathering of friends and family, celebrating the fact that I became a mother, and that I've made it two years without any major issues despite the horrors of the pregnancy, labor and delivery of BeanBean. Yes, I'm the first to admit that this party is for me. I expect to hear about all the things I've done right for the past two years, and to bask in the reflected glow of his brilliant Babyness, soon to be lost forever as my BeanBean evolves further into a Little Boy.

I think it may be time for a new thread, don't you?