StephandOwen - it's hard to be the lone voice of dissent on a thread like this.
I understand what you are saying, but I think perhaps your situation is different from A&A's. A&A tried VERY hard to prevent this from happening to her nephew. She sent info and two impassioned letters.
Her bro and sil had to have known how she felt about this. And her feelings are important as well.
If she had said nothing about circumcision, except perhaps to mention in passing (or something like that) that she wouldn't do it, then I would think an argument could be made that she should go and see the baby. In that situation, if she hadn't done anything, then there would be no reason/excuse for avoiding the situation.
I'd assume that was perhaps your situation? There wasn't anyone who gave you all of the information about circumcision?
But given that she gave them all of the information, pleaded with them not to do it, etc., etc. - I think she needs to respect her own emotions and stay away. It does sound to me as if she is doing what is best all around.
Yes, it might hurt her bro and sil's feelings that she chooses to wait to see them for a few weeks. They cut off part of their son's penis. In the face of abundant reasons why not to and an aunt who was pleading with them to leave their perfect son perfect - the way he was born.
If I had friends or family members who did the same, in the face of the truth about circumcision, I would need to wait to see them as well. It would take awhile before I could face them and be civil, let alone be able to express my happiness for them at the birth of their beautiful baby boy - whom they chose to surgical alter.
I must say - the 'get well' card idea made me laugh - I think it's great! Not sure I'd have the guts to do it, but I'd want to...