How did you decide how many kids to have?

[stretchmark]

I have been seriously going back and forth on how I feel about having more kids than I already have. I certainly don't have to make any decisions any time soon but I am just sort of looking for a wide aray of reasons, maybe things I haven't thought of yet.

[TiredX2]

Well, we've decided on two (biological) children. DH got the big snip earlier this year. We decided this because:

1) it seems to be the # we can handle
2) we both agree we can't go through another pg w/my depression & anxiety issues

we're both fairly "nervous" about our kids and just feel safer when we can keep hold of them (one kid for one parent, I swear we're already outnumbered!)

[2much2luv]

I am very open on the issue and plan to just go with my gut for the most part. Of course finances and things like that have to be considered, but where there's a will there's usually a way and if I feel the pull for another baby I will try very hard to make it work.

[tricia80]

i want a football team... (i only have one dc right now)

but i shall see how it goes.... i definately want a couple more...

[Aaudreysmom]

I have one now and think just based on how much dh and I like having her around we will have several more. Before she was born we really had no plans on kids but now we both have said at one time or another that we would like upwords of 6 kiddos. I do plan on taking it one at a time though.

[2much2luv]

Oh, for me personally, I want 5. I have 3 now and I want to wait 5 years and then either have 2 more (2 years apart) or adopt 2. After that we'll see. And if I change my mind so be it. but that's where i am right now.

[ombra*luna]

I have 3 and just realized today that I am done. Well, I knew I was done giving birth (b/c I'm not very good at pregnant and probably am in menopause anyway) but I had been toying w/the idea of adoption - not right away - someday. But now I realize that it's time to move on from parenting very young kids and do some other stuff as well. (Little ds is 3.)

But I kind of decided to have them one at a time. There were 8 years between #2 and #3. During which, I probably would have told you I was done.

[MamaMonica]

We decided on two- we could keep the small cars, have one child for each adult so they each got one-on-one parent time- and would still give us some time to both parent and pursue our our other interests. We could also *hope* to save for two kids' college- but probably not more.

And I love my kids so much I didn't want them to be lost in a crowd of kids and me having no time for each individual child (can you tell I was a middle child in a large family and am still getting over that?)

[applejuice]

As long as I could remember, I always wanted four children.

And I have four, healthy, beautiful children...must be destiny.

[Emilie]

No clue how many....
Depends on financial mainly and how many I can handle. I have my hands full with one right now. I have thought since we started young- had ds at 22- that I could do 2 in my twenties and 2 in my thirties- I think we will wait and see- but I am not on a Birth control right now- tho I need to be because we definetly do not want one now!
Tho it would be ok if it happened!!! Maybe...
Emilie

[shelbean91]

Way before we got married we discussed the number- dh wanted 1 or 2, I wanted 2 or 3, so we settled on 2. I was sure 2 was fine, but wanted to wait a while after the birth to send dh in to get a vasectomy to be absolutely sure. About a week or so after I decided I was ready to tell him to make the appt, I found out I was pg w/number 3. I ended up having a c-section with him, and I wish I had my tubes tied, but I didn't, so again, waiting for dh to be ready to make the appt for the vas.

I have one surprise baby, and while I wouldn't trade him for the world, I'd really rather avoid another surprise baby. I'm a bad pg person and each baby has come earlier than the one before (35w4d, 35w1d, 34w3d) and had issues nursing, but otherwise healthy- I'd rather not tempt fate again.

[stacey31]

How do I decide how many children to have???

KEEP GETTING ACCIDENTALLY PREGNANT!! :

[wende]

Well, I always said "2 boys, 2 girls", but then when I was pregnant with number 4 my dh said that he thought 6 was a good number. I thought he was crazy, it was always supposed to be 4. Now, though, I'm really wanting at least #5 and possibly #6 as well. Of course, dh decided to switch to my "4 is plenty" theory, although tonight he told me that he's "not opposed to the idea of having more" and that "I'm warming him up to it".

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[emmaline]

we never decided either, this just the number we have after 14 yrs marriage and no contraception, now i think at 43 i will be grateful and stop!

[A&A]

Please tell me you are planning on adopting, since according to your sig, it looks like you would end up having another preemie.

[magemom]

I have heard there is effective birth control, we just haven't found it yet. We have NEVER tried to get pregnant. Never even discussed trying. Closest we ever came was in October should see if it works, only to get pregnant that day. LMAO!

When we were dating I said even numbers, 4 was good, DH said 2. We had 2 sets of 2. Now we are looking at a 3 set and I said I never wanted odd numbers... we shall see if we are done.

[StarSwirls]

Originally Posted by stacey31

KEEP GETTING ACCIDENTALLY PREGNANT!! :

Hahahahahhahahaha !!! That is how we got our baby lycia girl & Adia too.. LOL
Well in essence they were both planned ( God & Us ), but they came sooner than we had planned


I wanted 8 kids growing up. A a little girl most girls tend to dream about their wedding, I didn't infact I never wanted to get married, so instead I just dreamed about my kids. and how many I would have. So since I couldn't have my "dream" wedding, my husband is forfilling my other dream.

Although I doubt I will get 8 kids. I get 4 for sure !!! But today I was really thinking I want 5. But I will keep my untill we have an and end up with 5... LOL Just kidding. But I am sure I will get them.

Kind of OT, but I truly think since I have this huge passion for Children, and want them, and this is rooted in my heart, that God wouldn't let me have such a passion a dream without giving me a way to do it. At least that is not the God I belive in.

So, we do want to get a little girl from China, but I want that to be my last child. But we will adopt.

That prob didn't answer your question... lol Sorry !

[2much2luv]

(can you tell I was a middle child in a large family and am still getting over that?)

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[TranscendentalMom]

We decided on two because...we like giving ds a lot of attention but we also want to him to have a sibling. We feel like this number meets this desire the best. We also will be able to send both kids to college which is very important to me. On top of that, I don't think I have it in me to have more than two. I'm quite nervous about a 2nd as it is!