Help me learn what to say

[waterproofmascara]

I need help. A close friend's father killed himself last night, and I don't know what to say to her. He didn't leave a note or anything; he just did it, and somehow the old "I'm sorry for your loss" doesn't seem to fit the situation. And since it was suicide "It was God's plan" doesn't really seem appropriate either.
Any ideas? So far, I've offered baby-sitting and hugs and food, but eventually (like tomorrow) I'm going to have to say something, and I am really at a loss as to what to say...

[goodcents]

I think the best thing is to be really honest with her. I am sure she knows it is a difficult topic for people to address without causing more pain in an attempt to be polite.

I would say something like (while holding her, stroking her hair) "There is absolutely no words that will take away your pain. But I can offer you my love and my friendship. I am here in whatever way you need, anything at all, cooking for you, taking care of your babies, holding your hand. Anything you need, I am here."

Hope that helps. I am sorry for your loss. I know two people committeed suicide over the past year and it really rocked me.

[darsmama]

I am really sorry to hear about your friends loss. I think goodcents had the best advice, and it is what I would do in that situation. Overall, it really is better to say something then nothing at all.
Good luck and bless you and yours,
Katie