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Bad momma day :(  

post #1 of 10
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This post will scream validate me as a good mom....just wait

I had the worst mommy day today. Dh is out of town (actually on a different continent), so it is me and the 3 dependants for 2+weeks. I got this handled right???? Nope

#1.....

I bought baby food in the plastic containers to keep in the car for 'emergencies' like suddenly staying at the inlaws for dinner. (I make my own baby food for DD) They have 2 year old open rice cereal they try to push on her....uh NO. So I pack the 4 of them (pears, peaches, apricots & prunes) in a bag with a bib, spoons and some ziplocks. I am SO on top of this. Then I see this : Apricot DESSERT (I am eating this now...not bad half frozen :LOL) I ASSumed that when it said 6 months, it didn't have sugar in it.

#2....

Ddog has a flea allergy. BAD. As in she is chewing her hind end off. I thought it was the heat....vet says fleas. The pill isn't working so we have to go to the topical pesticide. Fleas are really bad in this area and she has a terrible allergy. The cortizone shot helped alot. Well today I dragged the kids up to a family BBQ an hour away. I didn't want to deal with the dog so I left her at home. In order for her not to chew, I had to 'cone' her (those dang elizabethan collars). Supposedly, they can eat and drink with them on. Not my dog. 30+degrees C (90F) in the house when I got home 5 hours later, take off the cone and she sucks back 2 large dog dishes of water. My poor baby

#3.....

I am hot....dang hot. DD is hot...dang hot. She is only wearing a diaper (with a wool jersey cover). She wants to nurse, but is doing that annoying suck suck POP, suck suck POP....which hurts as she just got teeth so it feels like I nurse a parahhna. So I get MAD and raise my voice and tell her to either NURSE or NOT. She starts to cry, but latches on and nurses for a while. I then go change her.....she is POOPY. NO wonder she didn't want to nurse. Dang.

#4....

I am trying to fix dinner. DD is on the couch playing and DS is playing with her. DD starts screaming, I assume DS did something, like pile toys on her head, which she hates, see toys piled on her....YELL at DS. He runs off crying, I pick up DD, who belches like a beer drinker, and is happy again. Fudge.

#5....

On the hwy to family BBQ. I don't want to go. DD is crying in the carseat because she is very tired (if DH is driving, DD will suck on my finger to sleep.....kinda hard from the divers seat doing 110km/h). DS looks miserable as he is missing nap. I ask him "would you rather have stayed home?" he says...."yeah". Great. (he can't elaborate...he is pretty non-verbal).

I know I am a good mom, but today....maaaaann I want to turn in my membership card.

please tell me y'all have days like this. Please.
post #2 of 10
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I am hot....dang hot. DD is hot...dang hot. She is only wearing a diaper (with a wool jersey cover). She wants to nurse, but is doing that annoying suck suck POP, suck suck POP....which hurts as she just got teeth so it feels like I nurse a parahhna. So I get MAD and raise my voice and tell her to either NURSE or NOT. She starts to cry, but latches on and nurses for a while. I then go change her.....she is POOPY. NO wonder she didn't want to nurse. Dang.
Oh, that just broke my heart--for you and her!

Sounds like you had a totally sucky day. We all do from time to time. Just think, it can't get any worse, right?

You get to start all over fresh tomorrow. Tomorrow will be better, okay?

Take care.

peace, Beth
post #3 of 10
It will get better! Dh just started a new job where he is out of the home ALOT ( opposed to being home all the time!) and I am having a hard time adjusting too! I yelled at my ds alot this week! I feel so guilty! He is such an angel but he keeps biting and hitting and hair pulling and I want to scream! Luckily when I yell at him he just laughs then I laugh too!
Keep going - it'll be ok!
Em
post #4 of 10
Oh I have done the keep trying to feed the darn kid but didn't check the diaper thing with all 3 of my kids at least once! Ooops s we all have crappy days, I hope tomorrow is better.

Hang in there, I am having one of those weeks but I'm feeling like I should turn in my stepmom card to get one of those badges with 'evil stepmother' printed on it. He has been here a little over a week and will be here until the first week of September and I already want him gone. (long story I won't rant on your thread but the kid is a horrid brat and dh even thinks so. He said no way that kid would be this way if he got even half a decent shot in raising him(ss's mom is something else too :.)
post #5 of 10
I had the same kind of day with DS today. We have been having adjustment issues with the new baby going on all Summer and I was just at the end of my rope today. Kylie is only 3 months old so she can do no wrong (which is normal of course)...and just makes things worse from DS's point of view.

I completely wanted to bury my head in the sand today and just start over tomorrow.

you are a good Mama. Tomorrow is a new day, and I hope it is better for the both of us. (And any other Mama's who reply here that they had a similar day).
post #6 of 10
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Ohhhh you guys are so great

No wonder I feel at home here. I tend to dwell on the bad, not the good. It is nice to know that I am not alone and tomorrow is another day...one where I think we will spend the day in the baby pool.

I HATE being hot. And it is not that hot, compared to other places, but it is hot for here, KWIM? I can't wait for winter and the rain.
post #7 of 10
Chelsea!!! I know, it is soooo hot here! We went to the beach a couple of times, but it is just too hot to do anything!
post #8 of 10
Well, you know why I'm up? I just finished a murder mystery novel and the bad guy was bad b/c his mother mentally abused him. So, now I'm up thinking about every lack of patience moment I've ever had w/my kids.

My dh, too, is unavailable (working 16 hour days for weeks and going out of town tomorrow) and I yelled at the kids a couple of times today. I just am losing patience when they argue over their toys or whose turn it is to do whatever. I just want to scream and lock myself in a room somewhere. So, I stay up late and read books and now wonder if I'm creating such an unhealthy environment that my kids will turn into sociopaths.



Ah, the life.

Hang in there. YOu're normal. I mean, I hope so. I hope I am. Ummm, maybe I should go read some uplifting novel.

Poor dog I fear I'm traumatizing my dogs, too, lately.

So, are you at the beginning of your 2+ weeks or the end?
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Originally Posted by BusyMommy

So, are you at the beginning of your 2+ weeks or the end?
Alas....the beginning. He left Friday Usually I don't get this bad until he has been gone 5 days or so.

I didn't get better last night. All DD wanted to do was squirm around, cuddle and suck on my finger....I just wanted to be not touched by hot hands.

Nym...I would love to go to the beach, but between it being in the full sun (duh), I cannot keep control of DS with DD in the sling enough to trust us to go in the water. Well...maybe. That is an idea. I just hate closing the house up all day and coming home to a hot house.

Things are different this trip....the inlaws are putting and imense amound of pressure on me to see us, usually they ignore me until DH gets home. The family BBQ was the inlaws, during which, I got my parenting criticized (not overtly...very passive agressive bunch). And they want to see us next weekend because of MIL's B-day. AND perfect SIL and her perfect family are coming to visit so there will be pressure to see them, especially since being around Dneice will push Nick to talk and use the potty.....in their minds anyway. They are the same age (8 days apart).

See what happens when I get going. I really really need to let a few things go I am really really stressed out. :

I feel like I have control over nothing anymore, and it really bugs me.

Thanks.....love ya guys
post #10 of 10
That bites about the ILs. Mine pretty much ignore me consistently as I always had unbendable excuses. Poor you.

Ok, so this is escapism, but can you go somewhere? My playgroup goes camping a lot which is awesome, esp. when dh is on a trip. And, this next time, I'm going to the ski resort w/the kids for a few days. A bit extravagant, but it makes us all so happy and we go hiking and swim everyday.

Would that be more work or fun for you?

I hear you on the beach. But, I guess I'm lucky b/c all of my playgroup friends are work or fishing or etc widows and we hang out a lot and help w/watching kids, etc.

Maybe not this trip, but it's something to think about in the future.

Do they like the car? Long daytrips to someplace fun; ie. out of town zoo or picnic?

yikes. I hear ya.
I have to be out of the house by 10:30 everyday w/my kids on an adventure

--did you change your name?
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