Since the thread got a little new life
: from Megan Sacha (congrats!) I thought I'd share what we did. I'm about eight weeks pregnant now, at 37 years old.
My partner and I used two different known donors (one for the first three months and one for another three-four months.) Believe it or not, we found them both through a very long ad we placed on Craigslist. (E-mail me privately if you ever want more details, but it worked great for us, and we met lots of really nice people this way.) We tried a plastic cup but KD#1 didn't like the logistics of that scenario that much, so he switched to a non-spermicidal condom. KD#2 used a small ziploc baggie, which was perfect for him and for us. We insemmed at home using a common children's oral syringe, you can get them at any drug store. The time between his orgasm and insemination was somewhere in the thirty-forty minute range. It took us six or seven months, with a two-month break between donors, so maybe nine months total.
I'm a big believer in traditional Chinese medicine. We had been seeing one person for these treatments, but I changed acupuncturists 6 weeks before we achieved success and I personally believe that was a huge differentiator. I started walking/yoga at about the same time period. I really did give up coffee and diet Cokes and wine for the last month, rather than sort-of pretending I had given it up and still managing three or four cups of coffee a week. I had decided just to get healthy to get healthy, and that mental release may have helped.
During the set of insemms that worked, (one the day I got the positives on the OTK, one two days later) I ended up napping on the couch with my hips up for an hour or two after each adventure. We knew orgasm helped and we had been very deliberate about that as well,
but this time we just had more of a "enjoy each other" attitude about it rather than the slightly grim, goal-oriented attitude we may have had subconsciously during the previous tries.
Anyway, that's my TMI. I wish I had known about this board before, when I was still trying, but at least maybe some other people can learn from our story!