Originally Posted by JuniperJoy
North Americans act like any risk is bad, which is obviously a very paranoic way to live. There is always a risk. Evaluating that risk is part of life.
I see what you are saying, but it does seem that world views often differ based on religious beliefs. Some people have a fatalistic view of life and don't think they have any control over their destiny. I don't really believe in fate, the will of God, what have you. So if I chose to let my daughter ride in a car without a carseat and something happens, it is fully my responsibility. I evaluate the risk and I personally feel like driving a motorized vehicle is pretty dangerous in general. I want to do everything I can to offset that risk. I guess what I am saying is I have evaluated, and I come down on the other side.
Not that long ago here, there was a family 8 driving in a minivan. Five of them were children and all but one were under the age of 6. One of them was 9 months. None of them was restrained and they were hit by a drunken driver. The father was driving the minivan, and he lived with minor injuries. The 2 year old was critcally injured and all the rest died. One person told me that it wouldn't have mattered if the children were restrained or not, as bad as the accident was. I felt that the opposite was true!
I've been in some minor accidents as have others in my family. One of my sisters was hit broadside by a car and the side of the car crushed in. Her children were all in carseats or seatbelts, but still were injured, except for the one on the side farthest from impact. I've known people who were killed in car accidents. I guess that is why I feel that the risk is great enough.
I do know some people who don't use carseats or seatbelts with their children. They are into non-coercion/TCS. It is very frustrating when one of their children is critical of some of my
choices, like allowing my daughter to eat sugar, or using a carphone. They don't seem aware of all the issues behind not using a seatbelt, and I really have to bite my tongue--I'm thinking now that maybe I shouldn't. I have never expressed concern with their children not using a seatbelt, because I am not a witness to what goes on inside the car while they are actually driving. My daughter is 5 now and says that we've never gotten into an accident, so that means we aren't going to. I hope she is right!