I chose the third, "child pretty much makes our schedule," but that's not really true. I would have said "We, the whole family, determine the schedule/routine/calendar of events on a daily and weekly basis"
Our day tends to be based around what activities are planned, and if we want to do said planned activity when the time comes, and are there any library books due? and is dh home with us today? and when did mommy get up and does she have a headache? and does mommy have a dr. appt.? and are we out of peanut butter? and what moods are everyone in?
We may at some point soon "fall into" a routine. Dd, 4.5 y.o., just stopped preschool and I just quit to be home with her and attend to my health. So right now, I rest a lot, and we're both "de-schooling", figuring out what we want to do with our lives!
So far, it's talking, cuddling, dancing, and 3-4 or more hours of playdough every day! It didn't really take her long to get tired of the tv. When she first left school, all of 11 days ago, she spent ridiculous amounts of time in front of the boob tube. I let her, figuring she might just need to get it out of her system. Not only that, but it is awfully nice to sleep in
. Now it seems that playdough and cuisenaire rods (math manipulatives) are a much better deterent to keep her from waking me earlier than I'm ready.
We eat when we get hungry. The only meal that has a set time frame is dinner. We try to get that in between 6:00, after Dh comes home, and 8:00, when dd goes to bed (theoretically).