First, let me say that if you honestly feel this is not the right time to do this, then don't do it. But if you suspect that your daughter might be ready but needs a little help getting there, read on.
Originally Posted by sistermama
...It was hard at first...Dh and ds figured out their own way after a couple of times - unique to them, it would never work for me! ...But, I think that my children should get the opportunity to be just as attached to dh as they are to me. Also I tried to remind myself that crying in itself is not always a "bad" thing, it is when a baby/child is left alone to cry without assistance or comfort that I don't agree with. That is a good suggestion to try getting out of the house, though, too.
Because my husband is often gone for long streches of time, we've been through this more than once. But it's been so worth it. I would do it all again. I saw so many of my sons' peers treat their fathers as guests in their lives for years
while remaining firmly attached to their mothers. I did not want that for my son.
When my son was two and we were going through the "only Mom will do" phase for at least the second time, we decided to try counseling. A therapist told me something that really stuck with me. She told me that when I go into "rescue" my son from his father, I am teaching him that he needs to be rescued from his father
. If Mom doesn't trust this man to take care of him, why should he?
I did the "leave the house" plan myself. Yes, the first few nights were always rough. But within a week or two, they'd have worked out their own deal. It was thrilling to watch the same little boy who a week before had insisted that "only Mommy read!", toddler over to this father and say "Daddy read!"
Now my son is 12 years old and he is equally, and firmly, attached to both of his parents.