JEEZE- names are even worse than due dates!!! I am so sick of people expecting us to know what to call this babe, sick of my parents saying Oh...ok, well... WELL WHY DID YOU BOTHER ASKING!?!?! I have completely stopped answering people - interestingly we have picked out 3 pairs of names and I freely share them with people who DON'T ask. Like you guys - ok, we've got Reider Leopold, Nolan Isak, and Isaac Stirling. I'm not looking for feedback, just sharing. Once we meet the little guy, I'm sure we'll know who he is, kwim? It's taken us 8 1/2 months to agree on these names...and we've gone through a LOT of names.
It's funny how much a name has an association for people. I think that's a lot of why people are so curious about it - maybe they do and maybe they don't want the baby name to be a certain one... maybe they can head it off - probably they can't. Your MIL KNOWS this is your decision, Leigh. So don't let her opinion disuade you from choosing the name you feel best fits your little girl. Her needs will clearly be met when the baby is left in her arms for you to go get your hair cut, or see a movie with dh or whatever...she'll have her time (perhaps many moons from now, but still...). This moment is not hers. Don't think you need to be stoic about it. I think naming babies has started to become a more important part of parenting, in the last generation. Naming ceremonies and other sacred moments that we can choose to share (after the fact, of course!), are becoming more popular. I think without too much emphasis on why, you can just back out of the situation and let her know you don't need input to make your decision as a couple. Fin.
Well, good luck mamas! I'm so relieved that we have a few choices now - we really didn't - even a week ago (although we've tossed some of these names around for a few months now). caio - andy