Ok, I am almost crying at some of the rude comments made about this, but I guess I deserve it because I have been rude more than once before to people.
Let me clarify something though, and I should have said it at the very beginning. She has been crying/whinning for almost 2 weeks at bedtime. Most of the time she goes right to sleep. It's when she wakes up during the night, that she will cry and whine and say she is scared. Last night was the worse I have seen since this all started, before bedtime. She will stand over me in my bedroom or stand in the hallway and just whine. Last night she never woke back up, and she slept the whole night on the couch. I seriously don't think any sexual abuse is going on like someone suggested. We have talked about if something is going on like that. I talked with her this morning about being scared, and asked her to tell me what is wrong. She says she is just scared. I asked if it was something a cousin said, or a friend said, or something she has seen on TV. No, no, no. I asked her if she felt like she needed to go see Dr. ** and talk about it there. No she said. DH did say though that I need to probably take her in anyways.
I do remember being scared when I was about 10. I went to a friends' house and her dad was watching Dracula on Showtime (back in 1980). It freaked me out!! Almost 3 years I prayed every night that Dracula wouldn't come through my window to get me. Maybe she did see something on TV that freaked her out. I know she has seen that new movie commercials "The Village". Heck, that has freaked me out!! We have told her about real and non-real, and how this movie is not real, etc... Who knows!! We don't watch alot of TV, but sometimes DH will watch it before kids go to bed, and just some of the commercials are scary. I know that oldest DS was scared to death of Jurastic Park. Got us up a few times to make us assure him that dinosaurs were not going to come get him. Whatever she is a scared of, she isn't telling. I do like the idea that someone suggested about her drawing what she is scared of. I've seen it done on Law & Order.
As for me having children to yell at? Give me a break!! I love my children. I would do anything for them. And if it means to take her to the doctor then I will, as you suggested and DH suggested. I also told her since she did so well sleeping on the couch last night, then she could do it again tonight, but in her bed. But, if she wants the couch, then fine. I will let her sleep there. As to yelling...I was yelled at as a kid. I have posted about that before. My mom was a yeller. I remember how mean she was to us. I am so not like her, and how I yelled last night was nothing with what my mom used do and say to us. I was always called "you little sh*t." I have never said that word out loud ever to my children. Ask my children, ask my DH. Only swear word I ever say is da**it, and since posting about the whole soap issue awhile back, I have been trying very very very very hard not to swear, and I have been doing a good job. My children are happy, my children are sweet, my children are the joy of my life.
I hope this is going to end soon. When 2 yr old had her tonsils out back in May, she was so miserable, and would only sleep on the couch. But, then it became a habit, but she eventually went back to her comfortable bed. I hope my 9 yr old will do. I have already apologized to her for yelling her last night, and she said she is going to not cry tonight before bed. Oh, and she did sleep the whole night without crying one time on Saturday night, so I thought we had overcome it, but then last night...
Thank you for all your nice replies. I love coming here to get great advice. You have helped me in the past, and offered great advice when I was to give up breastfeeding #6 because of the awful infection I had on my right side for almost 4 months. But, today, Lindsey is 6 months old, and I haven't had to express milk for about a month, and she is nursing great on that side, and it's not hurting anymore. I will always be greatful for you nice momma's who love to help. And again, I am sorry for offending anyone in the past. I am trying to be better.