Originally Posted by ParisMaman
I don't use that anology, but I think you (you three) don't understand it. It is simply a way to say that it is not healthy to use disrepectful ways of communicating (yelling, berating, shaming, forcing) with anyone - your partner or your children. It does not mean that you must talk to your children the same way you talk to your partner. It tires me to read all the time that because I say children deserve respect it must mean that I let a child kick me. I want to be able to see the reasons behind my partner's after-work grumpiness (instead of taking it personally) the same I want to be able to see the reasons behind my toddler's kicking (instead of thinking he or she is just bad/manipulating/doing it to get my goat, etc.).
You say it so well.