Need Help, Anxiety Disorder Stuff

[MaryLang]

I'm just looking for some support and advice. I have been dealing with this for years, but it has only gotten real bad the last 4 or so years. I've been dealing with all of the classic stuff, panic attacks, heart pallpitaions, mind running on over load. Well, right now I am having a hard time. I am pregnant again (which I'm really happy about), but I am very cautious because I have had m/c's in the past. I want so badly to be like my friends and just start announcing as soon as I find out, but I keep it secret for a while, because I'm afriad. Well, the thing that is flaring a lot of this stuff up lately is the fact that I am really afraid to have sex with my husband when I'm pregnant, because one of my m/c happened the day after and even though I know that wasn't the cause it still drives me crazy. The last time I was pregnant (with dd) I think it really affected him that I couldn't get to close to him. I don't want to feel this way, but I just can't calm down about it. Everynight lately I get so worked up, I feel sick and then he leaves me alone. I love him so much and I know he'll go along with whatever I say, but I don't want to do this again. I think the lack of it during my last pregnancy still affects us through til now, like we just aren't as close anymore. I can't relax about it. I know it dosen't sound that bad but it really starts causing me to be physically sick. I need to learn to calm down about this. Thanks if you've read this far. I hope I made some sort of sense.

[wonderfulmom]

You need to let your midwife/doctor know about all this. Also, your dh sounds like he's trying to be understanding- are there some snuggling and/or other things you can do so he doesn't feel rejected? I can see how you would worry extra about a mc. ((hugs))

[HaveWool~Will Felt]

I have used "Letting Go" anxiety & tension spray. It is a homeopathic, not habit forming mouth spray made by LIDDELL
www.liddell.net might have more info on it.

It targets the following:
Nerves on edge
sleeplessness
stress
apprehension & worry
fear & phobias

I used it after my first pregnancy, which I lost around 19-20 weeks. I continued to use it through my entire next pregnancy with my son who is now 5.
Maybe give it some thought...it may help.

I have purchased it at "Nature's" AKA "Wild Oats". I am sure that any health food store would have it. There are actually several to choose from that are in the same line of products.

Blessings to you mama...