Do you ever feel like running to the mothering boards with your tail between your leg

[edamommy]

? I'm SO TIRED of people talking bad agains ap parenting or breastfeeding or extended breastfeeding and promoting formula... I'm so sick of hearing "my breasts, my body, I do with them what I want" and that a baby doesn't have a right to them! I'm so tired of hearing people say "I don't have the time or money to sit at home on my ass all day and just lift my shirt up...". And this is from vegetarians (gasp) who I THOUGHT would be less mainstream in other parts of their lives as well... but NOPE. Okay, I'm done ranting and I"m going to try to stay away from the veggieboards.com for a while... until I cool down.

[sweetest]

I try to tell dh - I need some MDC time- after some episodes.

cyber

[bec]

I will read the mainstream board for a while, then come here. I breathe a sigh of relief and feel like I can let my hair down. I feel like I have come home. This is where I can be myself without having to defend every freaking parenting choice I make! And I can moan about how hard it is sometimes to do what I know in my heart and soul are the best ways to raise my girls and live my life.

I hear you mama! And want to second:


Bec

[Camellia]

[MA mommy]

A baby doesn't have a right to breasts like a baby doesn't have the right to go through the birth canal

[mountain mom]

I have never been on other boards...but even in real life my very liberal 'hippie' veg friend told me to stop breastfeeding because my dd is no longer a babe and I am only bfing her now for my benefit.

Thats when I come here and feel the mdc love.

[magemom]

I am not very crunchy here, but I do not go anywhere else. I have had to pull myself away from the non nursing related yahoo groups because I can't handle it. I am part of several birth month lists this time and I can't read them. It is too painful. All these poor induced 5 pound babies who are formula fed 'i tried for a day but it wasn't working out' ugh. That doesn't even go near the 'DH says circ so we did'.

I can't wait till I can NAK again. I have nothing better to do with my time than hang out here (when all the kids are attended to, that is)

[loving-my-babies]

Thank you for your thread! Urggggg I'm literally SICK of hearing the "it's my body, my choice, I come first, baby comes second" crap! it just makes me so sad to see that mothers have children only to put themselves before their own children. it's nice to have MDC to vent here because this world is getting more mainstream everyday and this is like our little haven!

[loving-my-babies]

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[Icequeen_in_ak]

Ditto what LMB said! I can't go near mainstream boards anymore because it breaks my heart just knowing what kind of life some of these babies truly have.

I love this place, I love this place, I love this place

[littleteapot]

I so hear you.
I was exiled from my expecting club for giving someone circ links and info when she asked (apparently I was calling everyone's opinions "myths" and I was using 'shock tactics'. Nope, that's the TRUTH sweetie! Though I admit it's pretty shocking!)
I felt singled out at my "very open" August parenting board when I made the comment, "You give her juice at 4 months old?" and I was forced to make a public apology. But, when someone bashed co-sleeping and I said that wasn't a fair thing to say, it was completely ignored. Breastfeeding advice was written off. I eventually left.
I'm so sick of it!!! I went around looking for an August '03 board that would be crunchy and accepting, but came up empty. MDC is my haven.

[Proudly AP]

i frequent one other board that has nice ap and bf forums. i go into their discussion forum and cringe a good deal of the time at the lack of information or expounding of misinformation.

i find that mdc is now my first 'stop' when i have time to check in

[loving-my-babies]

Originally Posted by littleteapot

I so hear you.
I was exiled from my expecting club for giving someone circ links and info when she asked (apparently I was calling everyone's opinions "myths" and I was using 'shock tactics'. Nope, that's the TRUTH sweetie! Though I admit it's pretty shocking!)

the same thing here! the worst thing, the people at this board, were SO ignorant that said circumcision actually had arguments on BOTH SIDES! like, what educated individual would find positive things in cutting off a part of your newborn's body? urgg..

[Melda]

Im right there with you but I would have thought veggie mama's would even be more apt to BF than not.

WOW.... sorry mama you had to experiance this .....

[callmemama]

vegiemom, I had the same experience on the same board! I've never gone to what I considered a "mainstream" board - had no idea the posters on that board would be so uninformed. I referred folks to the LLL website and kellymom.com for factual info and then people started bashing LLL. Whew! I participated in the "debate" in a civil manner (talk about restraint!) for a while, then just decided not to go back!

[degeeter]

Originally Posted by bec

And I can moan about how hard it is sometimes to do what I know in my heart and soul are the best ways to raise my girls and live my life.
Bec

It's human nature to complain some of the time. Besides, sometimes in life, the best things to do are also the hardest.

But of course, if you let your baby cry all alone and prop them up with a bottle, then you don't have much to complain about because there's no energy being expended to do that.

It makes me so sad when I hear mothers say that they do things like that with their baby because the don't want to be "manipulated" or that they don't want their baby to be "spoiled."

Some people say they put their babies on a srtict schedule because they don't want to work around the baby because "I am the adult/parent". Yes that's right, you are the parent. That's why you should have enough sense to KNOW that babies need a lot of love and attention. They are helpless and need you to be there for them at all times, not when it's convenient for you.

If you don't want the resposnsibility that comes with having a baby, then don't have one. Babies are a lot of work and they tend to drain you, but that just comes with the territory.

I lurk on a mainstream board and sometimes I post when I see someone has horrible misinformation about something, but those people pretend like they never saw what I posted and continue the cycle of ignorance.


Oops, sorry, this turned in to my own personal vent,lol. I'm glad I found this board though.