Putting your screaming kid in TIME OUT IS MY BUSINESS!

[Mommy&Will]

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So we're at the park today, and once again my sister's 3 year old boy gets put in time out (let's just forget the fact the poor kid is cranky because he has poison ivy, and was probably hot and hungry on top of it.)

So anyway, they make him go stand next to a tree and there are 3 other families eating at picnic tables nearby. He is screaming....

I tell her (and her hubby) to at least take him to a part of the park where he wouldn't be bothering others. She told me to stay out of it, ITS NONE OF MY BUSINESS.


Well, I'm sorry, I think that is just rude to do that to other people. They have come over to our house, and when he was 1 and a half and wanted to sit on his mom's lap and she wouldn't let him, he just screamed and screamed in his highchair while we ate dinner. She says he'll just have to learn to deal with it.... Well, I said let him learn in his own house. THERE"S GOT TO BE A BETTER SOLUTION TO THAT ANYWAY, I want to tell her.

Of course, their parenting style drives me absolutely bonkers. I know you have to discipline kids, and I know it is unpleasant sometimes, but I also think you can do it in a respectful way for EVERYONE involved. :

[zipworth]

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Just wanted to agree with you wholeheartedly .

[Marsupialmom]

I agree with you.

If they are in my home I would give them the option of stopping the crying/screaming or leaving.

[PM]

Huh?

[MsMoMpls]

IMHO- another side of the argument

I wouldn't raise my kid that way but... Just think about how many people are critical of your own choices as a mom. We need to be respectful of each others' choices as long as they aren't abusive. She is more likely to ask for input or advice if she feels supported and accepted as a mom. It is hard for any mom to take a stance she believes in and stick to it. Our kids need confident moms who are supported by their families.

[asherah]

It would be impossible for me to be around someone who is forcing a screaming three year old (who has poison ivy and is probably miserable on top of it all ) to stand under a tree in a public park.

I would have had to leave.

[WithHannahsHeart]

Originally Posted by MsMoMpls

I wouldn't raise my kid that way but... Just think about how many people are critical of your own choices as a mom. We need to be respectful of each others' choices as long as they aren't abusive. She is more likely to ask for input or advice if she feels supported and accepted as a mom. It is hard for any mom to take a stance she believes in and stick to it. Our kids need confident moms who are supported by their families.

In many cases i would agree with the whole supportive thing. In this case, i say crappy and lazy parenting, particularly as this is not the only time the OP saw her responding in this way to her child. I doubt she would ever listen to any alternatives to the way she parents. I would have also had to leave.

[Piglet68]

I think it's one thing to expect support for your discipline choices/methods...but when those choices/methods disrupt everyone around you, then it IS your right to ask them to "take it elsewhere".

This goes just as much for parents who spank (not allowed in my home, and I would refuse to go anywhere that DD would witness it), and put their kids in TimeOuts in public where they are disturbing others....as it does for overly permissive parents who won't intervene when their child is disturbing others.

[journeymom]

Oh, yes. Take it else where. Yeah, maybe sis needs support, but rude is rude.