cheryl, HANG IN THERE! the first couple of weeks are the worst... even with my fourth, i'm still having nipple soreness with every latch. but i know it will get better, and when you are able to just whip out a boob and nurse your happy baby while others are fiddling with bottles and warmers and a fussy kid, you'll be SOOOO glad you stuck with it!
treat yourself like a QUEEN right now. have everyone wait on you hand and foot. they are to bring you lemonade and iced tea and anything else you want to drink, in massive quantities. you are to sit with your feet up or lie down with that baby and sleep and nurse and love on him and do nothing else!
well, ok, you can get in the shower and let the hot water pour over your breasts while you massage them... this will help with the engorgement. later on, icing your boobs with packs of frozen peas will help with the soreness. if you have a good pump, try to get some of the swelling down by pumping a little before nursing the baby.
the baby will wake up more and more often as he gets older... link is 10 days old and just now becoming more and more awake (unfortunately, it's happing at NIGHT, too, but we're dealing with it!). it's very normal for a newborn to need to sleep a lot. if your baby isn't dehydrated, he's doing fine (check his soft spot... if it's indented, then he might be dehydrated. you want that spot to be nice and full!).
talk to him. let him get good and worked up before you put him to breast (not screaming, but make sure he's awake and rooting and really WANTS to eat). tell him he's doing a great job when he's really working hard. he needs to hear it!
it won't be like this forever, honest. every day you'll see some small improvement. both of you are learning a complicated, intricate, and vital dance that will keep you both healthy and happy for years if you can get the steps right now. be patient with yourself and your beautiful baby... you're both motivated and smart enough to figure this out! it's just going to take a little time to learn how to dance with each other.
traci and bears and polyphany (and anyone else i've missed), welcome to your beautiful new babies! pictures, birth stories, more more more! (i know, you're a little BUSY right now, but i want you to know we are so excited for you!).
to the waiting mamas: soon, soon! here i am, ten days after the big arrival, and i'm already teary about not having those little kicks and wiggles inside me anymore. i know you're tired of being huge and clumsy (i was too!) but it's really going to be such a short time before this baby is outside forever. i miss being able to meet all his needs without even thinking about it... i love him to bits but sometimes it's just a little hard to take being screamed at. hug those babies in you... they'll never be this close to your heart again.
sorry i've been awol lately... seems like all i have to do is look at my laptop to wake up lincoln! but he's finally taking a longish nap now and i'm scrambling to get email responded to and a quick note to you wonderful ladies...
he's having some tummy troubles... once we get him calmed down, he can get his poop moving, but until then, he's just yelling and tight and fighting. i've ditched the usual suspects: chocolate, beans, broccoli, milk... anything else you guys have had good luck eliminating to get your baby's gut happy again?
this mostly hits in the evenings and late nights. during the day, he's mostly a happy (or sleepy) guy. lots of alert awake time, checking us all out, staring out the windows at the trees, watching the fan go slowly above him... it's just so amazing to watch him soaking in his world.
MIL arrives tomorrow for a week's visit. dh is out fetching a curtain rod so we can make her room a little more private (no door). i'm starting to think about all the things that fell by the wayside after link's birth... soccer signup for dss, college class reg. for dd, and who knows what bills have been paid! still, the electricity is still on so it can't be that bad...
are we gonna start an august life with babe thread in the baby forum?
i'll try and check back with you all soon!
(hey, we made a web page for lincoln, with more pictures... i'm still working on the text, but the pix are up... come check it out: Link's Web Page