Grandmother vent

[Mama2Xander]

Dh's grandmother was over for a visit tonight. She always drives me crazy, but we don't have to get into that...but seriously, the thing about supplementing/starting solids makes me NUTS! Ds is usually pretty fussy when she is over here (she's a bit, ahem, *intense* for him) and doesn't eat well when she's around. Of course she interprets this to mean that the breast milk isn't good enough for him and he needs something else, but she'd never come out and actually SAY that, she just hints..."Dr. So-and-so always said to start solids at __ weight" etc etc. or "When do they consider supplementing?" Dh is very good about explaining all of this to her, but I know she doesn't get it...oh well. It just irks me, KWIM?

One funny thing: I was sitting down to feed ds and she didn't know what I was going to do (why should I announce it anyway?). When she saw me lifting my shirt she got all flustered, said "Oh, mercy!", practically threw down her purse and almost ran out of the room! :LOL

Yet she claims to be supportive of breastfeeding (or, sorry, "nursing", heaven forbid we use the word breast!) and "thinks it's so wonderful".

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent!

Kirsten

[OwensMa]

DS was like that too. There were people who were too intense and over-stimulating. He had meltdowns b/c of it. They're just little babies! People need to keep it cool. They never think it's b/c they're in the babe's face all the time. It must be the milk. Sheesh! :

[Too Busy]

Sadly, many of the older generations were indoctrinated into the "get them independant as quickly as possible" way of thinking. My grandmother (who was crunchy before it was called "being crunchy" :LOL ) told me that she was told that her breastmilk was no where enough for her babies and they could die without supplementation! My mom told me that when we were small ,moms would "compete" to see who could get their babies on solids earliest! Yikes!

When people question my decisions, I find it easiest to say "Well, our ped saids X. You know all doctors are different and I'm going to stick with what mine says." Heh- we don't even go to the peds, but it works like a charm!

Sorry you have to deal with this!

[menudo]

My Grandma has 8 kids-my Mom being the oldest. When I arrived with DD 7 years ago and was breastfeeding the entire family was so terribly disgusted. She did mentione she "tried"to breastfeed my Mom but it lasted maybe 3 months when she went to a party and she leaked and it ruined Grandma's good dress. So that was that. (Grandma never got Mother of the year, partying was a high priority!) Mom was "humiliated"that she was breastfed...That is and was everyone's (we are talking 20 something people here) attitude EXCEPT Grandpa's, he had no problem-I accidently squirted him too and he did not care (we were sitting next to each other). The family whispered about how could I do that in front of him. I miss him, he died this year. But just months later his dimentia kicked in and he was no longer all there.

[sandsprite]

Originally Posted by Mama2Xander

One funny thing: I was sitting down to feed ds and she didn't know what I was going to do (why should I announce it anyway?). When she saw me lifting my shirt she got all flustered, said "Oh, mercy!", practically threw down her purse and almost ran out of the room! :LOL

Kirsten

you could just.. ..mmmmm...... breastfeed whenever she starts to get annoying.... That's what I would do.