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post #1 of 6
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Hi,
this is my first posting! I am looking for some advice on nursing 18 month old twins. the problem is that one of my girls twin#2 freaks out every time I try to nurse twin #1. I nurse them togeather as much as posiable. But they pull hair and pick at each other. Twin #1 nurses very little bacause twin #2 pulls at her and such. How do I keep twin #2 from becoming so upset? Should I make her waite her turn? Problem is she will nurse for 20-30-40- min. and then still want to nurse when sister does. I ofer her to nurse after her sister as well and she does but that doesn't help during twin #1's turn. not sure how to handle this one!

thanks, ricard
post #2 of 6
Mine aren't that old but I can't nurse mine together anymore either because they fuss and poke each others eyes. They also fuss when they see me nursing the other one. I have Maribeth whining right now while I nurse Megan. I take turns and once they stop active swallowing switch babies and then put the first one back on after. So I'm no help here really - other than to let you know you're not alone.
post #3 of 6
I wish I had a good answer but the truth is I don't. My 20mo twin girls sometimes pick at each other while they nurse, and if they do this I pull them both off and button up my bra. When they cry I tell them I can't nurse them if they are going to fight. I give them a minute or two, then try it again. Sometimes I put a big book in between them.

I never could do the taking turns thing. I let whoever wants to nurse nurse whenever.
post #4 of 6
Hi,
I'm newish here too - nice to meet you. I had to stop nursing my boys together about 6 weeks ago because of the poking and hair pulling - they are just coming up to 9 mos now. I think it is more curiousity than anything else - but it hurts all the same. What I often do is sit all 3 of us in our little play area, and feed one whilst 'playing' with the other one (lots of eye contact, smiles, talking, singing, waving toys around). The one I am feeding gets a bit distracted but it tends to keep everyone fairly happy. I am also quite good at letting one baby suck my finger (he loves this) whilst feeding the other - altho this means have to adopt some strange positions...

I am not sure if this is so useful for your older twins - I often wonder what it will be like as they get older and become more aware that most of the time they can only get a share of my attention. Hope you find something that works for you.
post #5 of 6
I am also nursing 18-month-old twins. I am usually able to tandem nurse them without them beating each other up. When the feet or hands of one baby do start to bother the other baby, I just explain that that can't happen while we're nursing, and that there will be no more nursing right now if there is kicking or hair-pulling going on. They know what "no more nursing" means, as well as "kicking" and "hair-pulling," so they usually listen pretty well when they get a warning like that.

I also have one twin (Luke) who asks to nurse much more frequently than his brother (Jaz). This is okay with me, but I want to make sure to get one-on-one nursing time with Jaz too. So we do sometimes take turns. Luke will come running up when he sees Jasper nursing, and beg to nurse on the other side. I will say, "it's Jasper's turn right now, then it will be Luke's turn." Turn-taking is very big in our house right now because there are so many things that they have to share (toys, etc.). If Luke is upset by this, then I usually only nurse Jasper for another minute or so, and then distract both boys with an activity. They are getting better and better at waiting for their turn.

HTH!

Lex
post #6 of 6
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Originally Posted by CherylE
Mine aren't that old but I can't nurse mine together anymore either because they fuss and poke each others eyes. They also fuss when they see me nursing the other one. I have Maribeth whining right now while I nurse Megan. I take turns and once they stop active swallowing switch babies and then put the first one back on after. So I'm no help here really - other than to let you know you're not alone.
Cheryle,
Thanks for answering my breastfeeding twins problem, It took me a while to find my postings! any ways you have three other children and then twins! Bless you honey! I have a 22 year old ,18 year old and my twins, and I am finding it hard to deal at times. My husband and I are thinking about another baby soon because i am getting up there in age past the normal birthing age ya know. I am in my 40's now! wooo thats scary! any ways how is it really going for you? any tips you can offer me on parenting? This is my second marriage and second family so I want to be a better mom then I was as a young mom. Thanks again,
Tammy Ricard
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