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post #21 of 26
Just tell them that you can't find what you want in a public school. They choose to spend their money on toys, you choose to spend your money on your kids education. We would gladly send our kids to a Waldorf charter school but they don't exist in WA state so we pay for a private school. I would glady save our money for retirement, a cabin in the moutains or at the ocean, or a nice vacation but we choose to spend our money on our children's education. Most of our neighbors around us that go to public schools have about the same income as us and this is what they spend their money on. It is their choice.

I think it is like when you don't let your kids watch TV and other people become very defensive about letting their own kids watch TV. They feel like you are saying to them that they don't care about their kids as much as you care about your own kids. They need to get over it. Every family has different priorities. Ours is a Waldorf education.
post #22 of 26
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well said, rhonwyn!
post #23 of 26
We don't have Montessori or Waldorf here unless we move to a bigger city which isn't going to happen.

I do belong to a few boards where some kids go to Montessori and others disagree with sending kids there(the one in particular is a p.s. teacher, go figure). The reason most of them disagree with it is they feel that the parents who send their kids to a M school think that PS is lower class and second rate. It's not a problem with the people sending their kids to a different school but it's a problem on those who disagree with anything that isn't norm(whether it's school, child rearing, sahm/wahm, etc)
post #24 of 26

worried about 2 1/2, is he ready for montessori program?

My 2 1/2 year old abviously needs something beyond activities him at home/ playgroup/ music class. I made some montessori materials and bought some practicle life-things for him to do, and that seems to fufill his craving for order ect, but wanted him to have the clasroom experience. He has plenty of socialization, in music class and playgroup co-op.

People in our area and the hovering in-laws ( 4th grade teacher& college professor controlling know-it-alls) don't get it.

I can't decide if preschool is right for him or not, you should see the resulting breakouts... the worst of my life!!!
We tried a week of summer camp, ( three hours a day) I hated hated the idea of handing him off to the guide/ teacher ( he has a high-need temperment and we never used a baby sitter, but he did attend playgroup twice a week for one with neighbors and was fine.) IT was going against my instincts and my parenting so far, but I really thought he would like the classroom. He cried for about two min maybe five, but stopped when he got to the classroom ( i stayed in the hall to make ssure) Towards the end of the week he did not want to get out of his car seat, and would not want to leave home in the morning, I felt like a terrible, pushy parent! But now, during the three-week break before school starts, and a week after the end of summer camp, he dosen't even want to leave the house to go to the park, he says he wants to stay at home Pf course he is happy when we get to the park.

Bottom line: I have a strong feeling that he will live the montessori materials, and especially watching/ interacting with the older children, However, I also am concerned that he will be adversely effected by forcing a seperation from me if he is not ready.

We are enrolled, which invilves a contract, but do not want to push him!!!! I wich wich wich I could be a teacher there!!!! But I have to finish my own schooling first!!!!! I am kicking myself for not applying when there was an assistant position open!!!!!!!!!!!!(finally, only four classes to go!)

I thought about buying some of the materials for him to use at home, but he would learn so much more by being with the other children.

I thought about starting my own preschool , purchasing montessori materials for children to use, but it would have to be in my apartment, who would want to do that!
post #25 of 26
It's funny, because out of the comments I get, the majority of them are from people who are PS teachers themselves. My good friend's mom is a teacher and she constantly wonders why...

That said, I went to private school my whole life and in college I was obviously in with both private school and public school kids. I can tell you that there was often a LARGE difference between myself and my classmates. So much so that I had several teachers over the years straigh out ask me where I went to school because of my performance in their class. So it was obvious to me and to them. (And I am not overly smart by any means - trust me.)

Now would I say this to a mom asking me why we pay? No, of course not. I wouldn't want to make anyone feel defensive nor feel like they are being put down. But I also couldn't, in good conscience, send my kids somewhere that I found in my own life to be sub-par. We are, however, hoping to send our kids to a local charter school - which is free! - that has a 3 year wait list. I got them on it in time, I hope. My youngest was on it before birth. This is an excellent school and it also happens to be free.

So when people ask us why, I usually just say that I have had experience with both public and private schools and I prefer that my children attend their current private school for various reasons. And I also mention that not every school will work for every child, and our decision is based solely on our children. People still wonder, but they don't know what they are missing!
post #26 of 26
Lauira, I would agree with your POV. I noticed in college that some of my private-schooled classmates had study/organizational techniques and writing skills that they had been "trained" in while attending private schools that I definitely had not been exposed to in the public school system.

The only exception I know of is that when my nephew was attending the public school in Chapel Hill, NC, it was very clear that they really don't leave any child behind. He had been in rural school districts before that and always written off as ADD and allowed to do the absolute minimum, but in Chapel Hill, when he consistently failed to turn in homework and complete assignments he was placed in an afterschool program where they made sure he did his assignments and then provided him a "late bus" to get home. That blew me away...he was really not going to be allowed to fail in that school district. But I know that is the exception.
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