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post #21 of 34
I don't know what to say but am sending
post #22 of 34
AW. How awful for you!
post #23 of 34
Thread Starter 
Thank you!!! I can't tell you how many times I've read this thread. It helps so much.

The UTI is finally calming down. Finally! I still feel sore in "the area" but the fever is gone so I feel less achy.

I have a doctor's appointment later this week (SO will be gone by then)...I spoke to the Nurse Practioner at my doctor's office and she said I might need a biopsy. This is NOT the start to the deployment that I was hoping for. I think I've cried more since Friday night than I have all year.

Okay, so I just have to take it one day (or one minute when I'm feeling paniced) at a time. No way out but through it and all that good stuff.
post #24 of 34
I am so sorry that you are feeling so bad, especially with this being your SO's last weekend home for a while. I hate it when a weekend is wasted, and DH is usually only gone 5 days, so I can imagine how much this is hurting. I wish I could give you a hug. Will you be feeling good enough to at least get some couple time before he leaves?
post #25 of 34
oh, K, please call your doc. You should be feeling relief within 24 hours of starting the antibiotics. I don't want this spreading to your kidneys! You need to get seen - soon!

Call me if you need to. I'm PMing you my cell number right now.

Edited to add: I just saw that you are feeling better. Ok. I'm so sorry that N is leaving this weekend. Freaking war. Geez. I'm so sorry.

I love you!
post #26 of 34

At least there is hope that someday you can look back at this all and laugh...

when dh was just dp and he was with the fire dept. we would plan all sorts of great stuff for when he was on furlough.
The last year he was there, EVERY STINKING time he was working his last work day before furlough, he would get hurt.
Like dislocated shoulder...slicing his hand open...fun stuff like that. Things that had to be dealt with by the FD and meant he couldn't come see me until he was cleared.
I laugh about it now.
but back then I was a wreck (worried about his injuries and upset that he wasn't able to be with me...)
I actually started to dread his vacation time...lol

I hope you start feeling better soon. I'm sending lots of happy healthy vibes your way

post #27 of 34
You know, don't underestimate stress. The stress of him leaving is probably contributing here. I hope that you're feeling much better soon. You deserve it!

Btw, I feel compelled to ask - are you sure the uti hasn't turned into a kidney infection? Be careful about that. In May my stepmom had a UTI which turnd into a kidney infection, and it took her awhile to figure it all out.

Get healthy!
post #28 of 34
Thread Starter 
Thank you all.

I'm feeling a lot better physically, but emotionally I'm a wreck. We're down to a our last few hours before he leaves. He's done deployments before, we've been apart for seven months before (it was hard but we did it) but this? I can't do it. But I have to. And I have to help my 12 year old child do it too.

How can I let him go??? I've been unlucky in a lot of ways in my life (infertility, mental illness, etc.) but I feel like life more than made up for it by giving me this amazing man who I made this amazing child with. They are all I want or need, and now one of them is leaving us for one of the most dangerous parts of the world. I can' cope with this.
post #29 of 34
Hugs! I feel for you, mama.
post #30 of 34
Oh, Pugmadmama, I'm so sorry to see you having to go through this. I don't even have words. Just a

I'm glad you're at least feeling better physically. You strike me as a very strong woman. You're going to get through this and you'll be able to help your ds get through it too.

Do you have much in the way of an IRL support system? Of course we'll all be here for you, but I think RL support would be invaluable for you for the next few months as well.

Stay strong for your ds mama. I think that's a good thing to try to focus your energy on right now.

Sorry I couldn't be more helpful. Hang in there.
post #31 of 34
Thread Starter 
Thank you both so much.

He just left.

Our son is sound asleep now, but he and his Dad had a good good-bye (plus Dad left him a note for when he wakes up.) SO and I had a good good-bye as well. Yes, there was a lot of crying. But for the last hours we just laid in bed, holding each other, talking and then being quiet and then talking again. We even managed to laugh a bit, which was a relief.

So. Now I focus long term on him coming home to us, safe and sound. And I focus short term on getting my child and myself through the days, with our emotional, physical and spiritual well-being well tended too.

Thank you again. I do have a pretty good RL support system...but I know it needs to be better and I"m working on that. Then I come here and it it truly amazing to me how women I've never met are so willing to be a support for me.
post #32 of 34
pugmadmama! I wish I could do or say something to help! You are such a caring member here at MDC and certainly deserved that last weekend of fun and closeness with your DP. I hope these 7 months pass fast, and DP stays safe and sound.

If there is anything I can do to help, which I'd have no idea what that would be, please let me know. Long shot, I know, but the offer is still there.
post #33 of 34

We're going to get through this together.

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