Just wanted to agree with what was said- fathers are being given more parenting time and/or custody these days. I just got in a conversation with our local Judge about this last week. He says that he 99% of the time gives joint legal custody (meaning both parents have a say in church/school/doctors/ect) and that he give primary physical custody (where the child will live) to men just as much as to women. Fortunatly he gave ME primary physical custody of DS
In an *ideal* situation in his courtroom he normally gives 1 parent the child/children from the day before school starts until the last day of school. During that time the other parent has Wednesday nights and every other weekend (fri night to sun afternoon). Then during summer they switch. And yes, this goes for young children too. Even infants (if they are FF or if the mother can/does pump, he does take into consideration BF'ing.... THANK GOD).
As far as AP coming into it.... I hope to God it doesn't. I know ex has some big beef with me co-sleeping. He has since the night DS was born (even though he never ONCE woke up to help me at night so I say *I* get to chose how to handle nightime if he's not going to help anyway). Thankfully he's not smart enough to use that against me
He also hates that I breastfeed. Again, he always has. He actually told me when he was trying to get DS for 3-4 days a week, 4-6 hours a day, and every weekend that it *wasn't his problem* that DS didn't take a bottle or cup when I asked how he planned on feeding him during that time. Again, thank God the Judge we got was awesome and knows the importance of the BF'ing relationship.
I feel for all the mamas who are just trying to do the best for their children only to be told by Judges/ex's that if they don't change they'll have their kids taken away. That's just aweful.