New Thread for 40+ and ttc - Page 7

[momamuseskim]

yeah, my body is being funny that's for sure. still all kinds of weird symptoms, cramping, lower back pain.

i think it's just because i have so much attention on my body that i notice every little thing.

i seem to remember doing this with my first daughter. i think we tried one month and i thought i was pregnant even though i started and took a pregnancy test and it was negative. but then the next month i was pregnant.

so, now that i have recovered from a little bout of food poisoning, we will be resuming our BD activities

and as my dh says, we should just be enjoying doing the activity as opposed to just doing it to make a baby, if that makes sense. it's like not making it mechanical, like oh we have to do it NOW to make a baby, instead of just doing it to celebrate the love we have for each other. i know that definately changed since we started ttc.

but thank you for thinking of me.

i hope everyone else is doing well

[hopeful130]

Hi Ladies, thanks for the info Velveteen. I too am going through the "almost 43" thing. I will be forty three in two months.
The stress of ttc is really becoming greater now. My dh is actually by dbf and he doesen't have kids. He desperately wants a child.
Problem is, I wonder. How can he truly be happy if I can't give him a child. I feel like I have this underlying feeling that ultimately our relationship will desolve if I can't get pg. It's starting to make me feel sick.
He says he loves me and that he really believes we can conceive.
Who knows. I am just afraid of losing him. Isn't that nuts. I mean really nuts.
I'm usually so upbeat but it's getting to me now. I know I have to be low stressed.
I certainly don't want this to interfere with the energy I need to put into my two children tht I have now.
I will definitely be looking into the website and the two books you mentioned. Thanks so much.
As far as vitamins. I take multi, selenium, Vit A, Zinc, Vit B, Folic Acid and for my teas I drink - red clover and milk thistle. Think I need to switch it up a bit?
P.S. I'm glad you guys finally wrote something. I was getting paranoid that I had offended someone. It was like six days before anyone wrote on this thread. Pfhewwwwfffff.

[momamuseskim]

sorry i haven't written much.

i know that i've been sort of sad about not being pregnant myself. and then both my husband and i must've eaten some bad tamales because we both got a mild case of food poisoning blech.

i know i was feeling "broken" and i just couldn't understand how i could NOT be pregnant. i mean, we did it basically every day last cycle, so there were swimmers in there 24/7, i figured there's no way in that small, confined space (my uterus) that the swimmers and the egg wouldn't run into each other. and i even had sore boobs for 2 weeks and vaginal discharge. i mean i really felt pregnant. but after starting, it was just incredulous to me.

so i did some more research and i found that high doses of vitamin C will start your period, EVEN if you are pregnant. apparently this is the most effective and safest way to do this.

so for that tooth ache i was taking around 25000 mg of Vitamin C to handle the pain of a toothache (i don't take aspirin or any kind of drug) so that's how i have always handled pain, inflammation and infection.

so now i have learned that i probably made implantation improbable because of the vitamin C. but that's ok too. i know that i was assured by my dentist that the x-rays and anesthesia were safe if i was pregnant, but i am really a stickler for not having anything at all harmful floating around in my body while i'm trying to conceive or pregnant.

i mean i know for me, it's important that i be as healthy as possible. that's why before we even started ttc i did several flushes to rid any toxins, poisons, drugs, whatever from my body. after the bowel, liver and kidney cleanse, i KNOW that my body is functioning as it should.

i may have already included this link www.800herbdoc.com

i've been using his products and reading his newsletter for about 5 years now. i know that there is one newsletter that addresses male and female sexuality and infertility. and i know that after i did the flushes the first time, i definately felt a difference in how my body felt and also my sex drive was greatly increased

[polka123]

cd 21 & 8 dpo

Well, I'm KHA - I'm really emotional but it could be the holiday season

to all of us.

[momamuseskim]

Originally Posted by polka123

Well, I'm KHA - I'm really emotional but it could be the holiday season

to all of us.

KHA? i'm sorry, i looked all through the abbreviations threads and i can't find this one anywhere

[Velveteen]

Cd 10

KHA: "Keep Hope Alive"

Hopeful, your post really touched me. How long have you been trying?? I hope that your new babe is waiting for you this cycle.

Polka, this sounds hopeful, I'll definately be KHA for you!!

Moma: I know what you mean about there being swimmers there and the spark of life did not ignite. I cannot beleive that I am not pg yet. We have had great timing, I know I did not miss it, and yet...........nothing. I can't beleive that I was naive enough to think I would just be pg right away. It happened so quick before!!

Just found out we will be traveling during my very fertile time, so I made dh promise we would still make time for bd!!

[hopeful130]

Morning Ladies: Velveteen. We have been trying since May. It took me awhile to get healthy though. I was underweight and anxious and I've been really getting healthy over this past six months. My body is healthy now. Hence, eating organic, taking supplements, body weight, getting hormones in tact. My dbf just seems to think that since his sperm count is so high that things should have happened by now.
It's funny. Do you feel, ladies, really truly feel yourselves being pregnant. Can you feel your tummies getting bigger and can you see your baby? I have this gut feeling that I will be pregnant again. Then I second guess myself. Is it a gut feeling or is it because I want it so much?
Well, I'm on cd8 so here we go. I could ovulate any day really. I'm just gonna bd like crazy and hope for the best. Try to meditate and think positive.
Sometimes I think that coming to these forums is obsessive and other times I think that it is theraputic.
Keep in mind though ladies, I'm a happy upbeat gal. I think we all share our deepest insecurities on here about ttc. Things we don't share with others. Things other just don't understand. I guess that's what makes these forums special. And forms bonds. I really miss my friends from the other site that closed down. I don't even know where they are. Some of them were due to give birth by now. Some were ttc and some had a few months to go. And then - out of the blue - poof - gone. Out in the web, lost. I hope they are all o.k. and I am grateful to have met you ladies and I appreciate your support and hope I can offer you all the same.
Baby dust - talk soon
hopeful

[Velveteen]

hopeful, I am really sorry you lost your cyber friends. I know I have been posting at MDC, and the ttc column for one year, so I would miss these people.
I hope you could somehow do a search to find out how some of your friends are doing. I don't know exactly how that would be possible, maybe they moved to another ttc board? Or a parenting board? Just ideas.

And congrats on getting healthy, yeah!!

[hopeful130]

Ya know Velveteen, it's funny you mentioned that. After I wrote on here yesterday, I tried my old site and it's running again but under a different name. There are lots of familiar names but none of my bud's yet. Maybe they'll come back. Guess I can't say the name of the site on here or can I?
Well, today is cd9.
How about you ladies, where are you all at right now?

[momamuseskim]

cd 13 dpo 1

well, here i am again

i guess we'll see what happens this month. maybe since we are driving to denver from austin to see my dh's family i won't be focused on every little thing that is happening with my body

[Velveteen]

Moma, I'm right behind you since my monitor registered 'peak' today!

I was so glad to see the peak since we are driving to Idaho on Saturday.

[hopeful130]

Wow, sounds like we're all in the same boat. I'm on CD11. Haven't done my temps though so we're just "practicing" every day.
That's kind of fun that we're all around the same time in our cycles.
Here's hoping we all get a BFP this month.

[polka123]

cd 1

friggin' reboot :

: for anyone waiting to O or in the wait :

for any AF found

[Velveteen]

Oh Polka, I am so sorry, This is getting old, no? I really really wanted this to be your month

[polka123]

cd 5

thanks - me too!

[hopeful130]

hi

Hello sleepy site. Everybody wake up and post.
I'm onl cd16 - don't know when I o'd. Didn't temp this month. Trying not to obsess. I allready feel kind of crampy. If I do my own diagnosis I would have to say that I am low on progesterone. I think that's why I have the cramping so soon. Right after o. I know it's not perimenopause. I don't have any other symptoms and I didn't even start menstruation until I was 16. Usually you have af for thirty five years.
I know what it's called. Estrogen dominance. Has anyone ever heard of that?
Anyways ladies - wake up .Time to post. C'mon. PLLLLEEEAAAASSSEEEEEE.
P.S. Velveteen I found my friends on another site. What a controversy about the other site that closed down. It's like a soap opera over there.
I was impressed how much notice we got when this site closed down. Very professional and I appreciate it. No closing down without notice and then disappearing off the face of the earth.

[momamuseskim]

cd 23 dpo 13

hey everyone.

well, we went to denver colorado from austin texas. drove up there on the 21 nov, got there the 22 nov. had a good time visiting with my dh's family and then helping his mom make the thanksgiving feast.

started noticing the sore bbs sometime during the visit.

so this month i decided that rather than think i am pregnant, i'll just think that i'm not, that way i won't be disappointed if i start and happy if i don't.

i had sore bbs last month too so i don't know what's up with that. i usually only have the soreness for a day before i start. so again this month, the soreness starts about a week after ovulation.

oh well.

at least we made the trip to and from ok. now back to the regular stuff. getting ready to work today.

i hope everyone else is doing well

[polka123]

cd 10 waiting to O?

Hi All.
checking in.
Yea, my PMS & early pg symtoms are the same so it's hard to tell/
I finally made an og/gyn appt for Dec & see what they say but I'm still nursing so I'll probably get the old "stop nursing to get pg" speech.
I won't do that during clod/flu season plus DS is way too attached to my boobies
How's everyone else doing?

[Velveteen]

9 dpo

Hi all; I'm doing OK. I also had very sore bbs last month with a disappointing bfn. Out of all my months of trying, last month and the chem. pg were the worst disappointment wise.
This month I am also playing the mental mind game that I will just think I am not, then I won't be disappointed. I'll let you know if it works!
I have sore bbs again this month, so who knows??

[hopeful130]

hi

Hi Ladies: Cd21 ?DPO. I too have sore bbs but that's nothing new for me. I feel like a stuffed turkey. I'm gaining weight and am grumpy. I have cramps so I doubt this is the month for me.
what a mind game. This is my eighth month now so it's starting to get more frustrating.
My appointment is next Wednesday with the fertility specialist so that will be cd3 which I've heard is good for tests.
Who else here is from Canada? I'm not sure what's covered and what's not.
Hope all of you had a great thanksgiving.
ttfn