Is anyone else a basket case?

[crayon]

I cant stop crying, I am so low... Is this normal?? I dont remember feeling this helpless with DD. I have a billion reasons, but mostly it keeps getting pointed right back at me and what I am doing wrong, and it is true- but I am nearly to the point of being helpless and not knowing what else to do??? Anyone else? I went to a friends last night (a man) and he was talking to DP and I and I just started crying- he looks over and says "ang, you okay?" In the car, I just start crying, I start crying reading a post, I start crying just thinking. I HATE HORMONES!

[jocmtl]

Hi Ang,

Oh, yah, the hormones! This is my first pregnancy, so I'm no expert, but I've heard lots of women tell me that each of their pregnancies was very different. I think it's normal that you don't remember feeling this way. You probably didn't, and this pregnancy is just different.

I don't know if I'd qualify myself as a basket case, but it doesn't take much to set me off. Lately, I've been very, very frustrated at how generally crappy I feel. Yesterday, I had a the worst day I've had in a while, and when my partner walked in, I just lost it. I just started crying and saying stuff like "I hate being pregnant" and "this really sucks." Feel a bit better today but I still have a splitting headache. Furthermore, I feel like I'm only using half my brain. Nothing makes sense to me and I have to ask my partner how to best conduct my day because it's just beyond me!

Anyhow, I totally hear you. I think it's normal, and apparently it all gets better after the first trimester.

BTW, we have the exact same due date!

[lavendermama]

Yup, it's a mystery. You lose half your brain during your first pregnancy and it never, ever returns. It is kind of like socks in the dryer

[crayon]

It is just like socks in the dryer- lol....

Jo, Yeppie I have a Due Date buddy!!! At least you have a partner who understand hormones- lol.. Scott just looks at me and laughts (it is pretty funny) but he just doesnt get the hormones thing.

I think a lot of my problem has to do with lack of sleep and energy- I am so tired I feel like I am walking in a daze. For example: Last night Rainey decided to not want to sleep until 3 am then I had an eye appt at 9 so I had to be up by 8 (YAWN) So I tried to take a nap today for a shot while but when I nap and DP is awake he cant keep his hands off me. So, so much for the nap. And I have not been sleeping at night, it feel like I have this clock that wakes me up 30 min. before Rainey gets up in the middle of the night to nurse, so I sit there waiting for her to make a sound and then get her latched on and nursing for what seems like forever then I have to get her off and then get compfy and then back to sleep. So then I have no energy to do anything productive during the day- and we work for ourselves so that leads to less money and more stress- and bill collectors calling. I am too tired to put up with their crap and so on! I also hate my house and on and on..... So, that is my crazy life full of hormones and growing a baby!

[welldone]

I had to chime for a couple of reasons. First, my due date is also 3/13. Second, this is my second pregnancy--I lost much of my brain the first time, so now I have even less to work with. I am totally empathizing with you.

I find myself blaming everything on "pregnant brain" nowadays. Funny thing is, every female friend of mine who's ever been pregnant just nods and knows exactly what I'm talking about!

Sometimes, pregnancy feels like 8-9 months of menstrual hormones. The past few days, I'm absolutely moody and hormonal. My poor husband is a trooper, but my little girl wants her more patient mommy back.

This is "normal," if that word can be used in pregnancy. We just need to find ways to release our emotions in a healthier format--then our families won't hate us for another 29.5 weeks!

[jocmtl]

Three of us on the same date! Wow! Although our fertility doc told us to tell everyone we are due on March 20th, just so we don't get harrassed with phone calls. OTOH, I have fibroids which can lead to early labour, so who knows?

Ang & Serina, I don't know how you pg mommies manage. I think I would die if I couldn't sleep! As it is, I've spent the summer only working a few hours a week and even that feels draining. I have the utmost admiration for you!

Still have a lingering headache today (this is day 3). I'm thoroughly annoyed because I used to have migraines for years, but after following a strict regiment with a naturopath, I hadn't had any in about four years. And now this! Ugh! Anyway, been scouring the migraine board and found some great suggestions.

I'm dying for some salt and vinegar chips. May have to run out before dp comes home.

[welldone]

Well, I'm still up and down emotionally. I'm hoping that next week will bring the dawn of a new, energetic trimester for us!

Jo, being a pregnant mother is more difficult. If I didn't have my daughter, I'd lay around on the couch all day and eat potato chips (my newest craving--and salt and vinegar sounds awesome, by the way). Then again, if I didn't have my daughter, I'd be working. Working made me ignore some of my symptoms the first time around, probably for the better.

I didn't feel this sick or lousy the first time, so I keep praying that it gets better soon. I never know what to expect!

[cholderby]

I woke up crying this morning because I had a dream that my husband got eaten by a grizzly bear (he's going camping in the Rockies this weekend). I was bawling. And DH was a little freaked out. Eight hours later, I now think it is hilarious (DH is 6'2" and 130 pounds, there's no meat on those bones for a bear to eat!)
I've also noticed that I can't remember anything! I've had to go to HQ for work for over a week now and I've forgotten every single day. I've even started keeping a phone record because I don't trust myself to remember.

[ladyelmo1]

Okay, so I started crying at the beginning of "Beauty and the Beast" yesterday... poor dd didn't know WHAT was going on!

A week ago it was "Mary Poppins" that did me in. *sigh*

And don't even ASK about the day the fish died!!!

My dh is probably looking into places to commit me even now! :LOL

-Melissa

[TOmomma]

Originally Posted by cholderby

I woke up crying this morning because I had a dream that my husband got eaten by a grizzly bear.

See this would be an excellent dream for me, my life being what it is! Grrrrr....

I guess I'm just kidding. He gets mad because I start crying whenever we have "discussions". Hey, I'm pregnant, hormonal and you're wrecking my life. Whatdaya want, a party??

Must stop all this negativity or I'll end up with a VERY cranky baby. That'll serve me right.

[CityGirl]

It's been a HARD first trimester. I have been a basket case on many, many days. I haven't had sex in two months. I've shrieked, whined, cried, snapped, demanded--basically have utilized every upleasant way of communicating with my family that you can imagine. I have had to force myself to get out of bed most days. And I simply have gotten SO INCREDIBLY SICK of feeling this way!!!!! I just want the morning sickness to be OVER and I'm tired of it!

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Whew. Anyway, hang in there, we all have our low periods. I am 12 weeks now and am just beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel.