Okay, I just have to get this off my chest. I have a nine month old dd, almost exclusively breastfed, and she is a very healthy, very chubby little girl. Probably weighs around 23 lbs or so. Her Dr isn't concerned about her weight, and everything I've read says that you can't overfeed a bf baby, and that you don't need to worry about a baby's weight in the first year. So we were over at my parent's house today, and when my mom saw dd, the first thing she said was "Hi, Slim." She is always making comments about dd's weight and how "fat" she is. She introduces dd to other people as her granddaughter "Slim" and has always been somewhat sarcastic about the way that she looks. Now my mom is on the heavier side, and has always harped on me about my weight to the point that I have had serious problems with eating disorders (she doesn't know this) and other weight obsessions my whole life. I'm trying so hard to raise dd in a way that she will be surrounded with positive influences and protect her from the sarcasm and cutting remarks that were so prevalent in the home I grew up in. So how do I deal with this? Am I making too big of a deal of a little thing? I've told her that the Dr is pleased with her health, and that there's no such thing as an overweight bf baby, but the remarks are still there. My mom thinks it's all a joke, but from personal experience, I know that "jokes" like that, especially about something as personal as weight or looks really hurt. I want dd to have a relationship with my parents, but not at the expense of her emotions. Thanks for letting me vent!
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7/18/02 at 12:50am