Shannon,
I am so sorry
It's very interesting how ob's work.
Last Saturday I started bleeding a little bit and it became more and more, so on Monday eve. I went to the ER. Long story short I have a blighted ovum.
Although very nice, the ER doc wasn't very compassionate, didn't ask if I was o.k., things like that. It may have been because I volunteered a little bit of my knowledge to begin with and he may have assumed I knew what it all meant and would be fine. Still, you'd think... Then again look who we're talking about lol!
The midwife I wanted to use, I spoke with when I was about 5 weeks. She doesn't see anyone until their 12th week so I didn't even make it far enough to visit with her.
I thought about calling her but didn't think it would do me very much good since she'd have to send me out for an u/s after I m/c, things like that. In retropsect I probably could have seen her but because I'm not even sure my insurance will pay for her (she's a cpm), I just decided to go to the first ob who could fit me in.
The ob I saw, although again was very nice, didn't even address the emotional aspect! I have to give her the benefit of the doubt though; I didn't exactly look like I was mourning when I went into her office and in all honesty I'm not. I'm more pissed at having to start all over again and not getting a spring baby than anything else, so it's petty stuff.
I liked her a lot but she was a very fast talker and as I was sitting there liking her more and more, I realized how easy it would be for her to bully me into something I didn't want to do should I stay with her for my entire pregnancy the next time. I probably wouldn't even realize she was doing it since she was so smooth.
I could also be paranoid because I have a loathe for ob's in general.
But I digress.... I probably should have found a practice that had midwives and asked to see one of them instead of an ob.
The good part is that this office has an u/s in house as well as doing their own bloodwork. That's pretty convenient.
She said the same thing, come back in 2-3 weeks and we'll talk more and if you haven't m/c in about a week, call me and we will see what to do next. She was pretty against a d&c which was fine with me, having had one years and years ago plus a c-section. That's the last thing I need.
So I think finally now it's happening; it's taking longer than I thought. I thought with the increased bleeding it would be on its way but no such luck!!! I'd just like it over with so I can get on with things. But I've said that a zillion times already
Good luck to you and maybe we'll be due date buddies again in the near future!
Take care,
Karen
