I'm glad you drew the parallel between the response to UC and midwife-assisted birth, Pam. That's just what I was thinking as I read this thread. On another site, announcing plans for a midwife-assisted homebirth might garner lots of shocked replies and "I could never do that!"s. I never expected a mention of UC here to be regarded as so out there! It's funny how normal and 'mainstream' a plain old homebirth seems to me now... I forget how strange and brave a lot of people think it is when they hear I had Lula at home with "just a midwife."
It's good to hear most people here say that they are supportive of the choice to UC even though they wouldn't choose it for themselves.
But even then, it's clear that they don't really understand or know anything about it. I know there was a point where I had never even considered it; now, after all I've learned, I can't imagine having this baby any other way.
But maybe we spend a lot more time on the MDC homebirth board in general, and the UC threads in particular. Maybe some of the people on this thread haven't read a thing about UC in their lives (it sure sounds like it.) We have heard the experiences and been privileged to get the information that the UCers (and you!
) are willing to share so freely. So we get it. Well, it's there, for anyone who wants to avail themselves of it.
FWIW I had a midwife for my last pregnancy and birth, and I loved her. But I need a different experience this time, for a lot of reasons. Someone asked why a woman would not have a midwife "just in case". I would feel hindered, even by having a midwife in the other room. I know
I'd ask for reassurance that everything was going all right if she were there, and what I really want is to listen to myself with every cell in my body. I want to trust myself; I want to let this experience unfold and be everything it can be for me. And I want to share it fully with my partner. Having a professional with us would break the sacred circle of our family.
DF and I have learned so much about the process of birth since deciding to UC. Probably much more than if we didn't "have" to because we were abdicating responsibility to a doctor or midwife. We know what's normal and what might be a problem. We have strategies to deal with complications that may come up. As a last resort, we'll dial 911. That's what I'd do in any true emergency, not just while birthing. That's what they're there for.