This is crazy! Shann, I'm still here giving you
On the one hand, yeah, it's shocking for most folks to hear of 16 yr olds being "allowed" to cuss, let alone 6 yr olds.... But not all people who curse like sailors are bad, and there's plenty of people with "pure vocabularies" who are rotten to the core.
Have some more trust in this mama and her two boys, please folks?? Let's get past the particular choice of words and figure out what horrid things the MIL said to elicit such words from the poor kids, huh??
I for one totally applaud you, Shann, for being so very trusting and respectful of your boys' feelings, opinions, and their general path in growing up...! It's a hard and brave thing to do, but imo definitely the right way
Now then.................what did someone say about how we must surely teach our kids that hitting is wrong, and thus teaching them that cursing is sometimes ok is incongruent??? HUH?? I don't teach my kids that hitting is always wrong in every situation--jeez. If someone was trying to kidnap them I'd surely want them to use their karate moves or whatever as best they could! Even hitting/physical violence isn't *always* wrong. What do you want your kids to do if they're being attacked? Try to politely reason w/the creep??
Even cuss words might not help in that situation lol
That said, I hope Shann and her dear boys are able to move on from this traumatic event with some perspective gained and lessons learned, and with their emotions and feelings intact and healthy too! Good luck Shann