Since when does CPS get people for playing dressup, for goodness sakes? Can CPS get you for "raising your sons as girls," if that is the fear? Simple, let them not be playing dressup when CPS comes knocking.
Can't a person make a goofy card if a person wants to? Let's not be too paranoid.
This granma needs to know she is not in control of how her son wants to raise his dcs. And that some kids are allowed to wear their hair the length they want as a sign of autonomy and bodily integrity. What a concept. What is this, 1968?
This is probably the same person who would want you to let a baby CIO, to make it more independent. How ironic. Let a 3 mo be independent, but a 6 and 8 year old need to do their hair the way YOU want.