I loved The VBAC Companion. It was my favorite VBAC book. I guess I found it gentle and complete (and I read it while I was pg, and I'm a hormonal gal while pg
Ina May Gaskin's stuff--while not VBAC specific--is very empowering, and I highly recommend it. Especially for during pg.
For *me*, Silent Knife was kind of scary. Yeah, I'd agre that it's not something for pg (particularly late pg).
I love Birth Partner, too.